✔️ Instead of following someone else’s path, define what success means to you.✔️ You are responsible for creating a life aligned with your deepest values.✔️ Start with small, intentional changes that shift your reality over time. 📌 Actionable Step: Write down three things that make you feel alive. How can you incorporate them into your daily life?

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✔️ “The biggest battle you will ever fight is the one within yourself.”✔️ You are not waiting for external change—you are waiting for yourself to step up.✔️ The moment you realize you are in control, everything changes. 📌 Final Thought: Your mountain isn’t an obstacle—it’s your training ground for becoming who you’re meant to be.

1️⃣3️⃣ The Final Truth: Your Mountain Is You

✔️ Overthinking is a form of self-sabotage disguised as logic.✔️ Fear-based decisions keep you in survival mode rather than expansion mode.✔️ Your mind will always seek certainty—but success requires moving forward despite uncertainty. 📌 Actionable Step: Set a time limit for decisions. If it’s not life-threatening, act within 24 hours.

🔟 Overcoming Overthinking & Fear-Based Decisions

✔️ “Letting go isn’t losing. It’s making space for something new.”✔️ Holding onto past pain, relationships, or failures keeps us trapped in old versions of ourselves.✔️ Sometimes, growth means grieving what no longer serves you. 📌 Actionable Step: What past experiences, beliefs, or relationships do you need to release to move forward?

6️⃣ Releasing Attachment to the Past

✔️ Self-sabotage isn’t always about fear of failure—it’s often fear of success.✔️ Success comes with more responsibility, visibility, and expectations.✔️ Many people fear stepping into their power because they worry they won’t sustain it. 📌 Actionable Step: Ask yourself: “What about success scares me?” Write down the fears and challenge them.

7️⃣ The Fear of Success: Why We Resist Our Own Potential

✔️ Growth is uncomfortable because it requires breaking familiar patterns.✔️ Many people mistake this discomfort for a sign that they should stop.✔️ The truth: Discomfort is proof of transformation. 📌 Actionable Step: Instead of avoiding discomfort, lean into it. Ask: “What is this discomfort teaching me?”

8️⃣ The Comfort Zone Trap: Why Growth Feels Like Loss

✔️ Many of our struggles are repeating cycles—similar relationships, career struggles, habits.✔️ These cycles continue because we haven’t learned the lesson they are teaching us.✔️ Growth requires stepping outside of old thought patterns and behaviors. 📌 Actionable Step: Identify one recurring negative pattern in your life. What keeps pulling you back?

4️⃣ Recognizing & Breaking Toxic Cycles

✔️ “You are not stuck. You are afraid.”✔️ Self-sabotage isn’t a lack of ability—it’s a subconscious effort to stay in familiar patterns.✔️ We sabotage when we feel unworthy, afraid of failure, or overwhelmed by change. 📌 Actionable Step: Identify your biggest self-sabotaging behaviors. What fears or beliefs drive them?

1️⃣ Understanding Self-Sabotage: Why We Resist Growth

✔️ “You don’t control everything. Your job is to show up, take action, and trust the process.”✔️ Fear of uncertainty keeps us stuck, but clarity comes from action, not waiting.✔️ Let go of attachment to the outcome and focus on consistent effort. 📌 Actionable Step: Instead of asking “Will this work?” ask “How can I grow from this?”

1️⃣1️⃣ Detaching from Outcomes & Trusting the Process

✔️ “Your subconscious mind is designed to keep you safe, not happy.”✔️ If change feels uncomfortable, your brain will try to pull you back into old habits.✔️ Recognizing this resistance is the first step to overcoming it. 📌 Actionable Step: Pay attention to moments when your mind tries to rationalize self-sabotage. Replace fear with logic.

2️⃣ The Role of the Subconscious Mind

✔️ “You don’t change your life by forcing yourself to act differently. You change by becoming someone new.”✔️ Instead of focusing on habits, focus on who you want to be.✔️ When your identity shifts, your behavior naturally follows. 📌 Actionable Step: Write down: “The kind of person I am becoming is…” and list three key traits.

5️⃣ The Power of Identity Shifting

✔️ Self-sabotage often stems from unprocessed emotions (pain, fear, guilt).✔️ Instead of suppressing feelings, learn to sit with them and understand them.✔️ Healing is the foundation for long-term transformation. 📌 Actionable Step: When you feel resistance, ask: “What am I trying to avoid feeling?”

3️⃣ Emotional Processing: Healing Before Building

✔️ “Your thoughts create your reality. Choose them wisely.”✔️ The strongest people are not those who avoid challenges, but those who face them with resilience.✔️ Tough times are training grounds for mental strength. 📌 Actionable Step: Start using “I get to” instead of “I have to.” Shift your mindset to see challenges as opportunities.

9️⃣ Developing Mental Toughness: Building an Unshakable Mindset

📖 The Mountain Is You – Brianna Wiest : Your biggest obstacle is yourself. Learn to break self-sabotage, embrace discomfort, and step into your full potential.

THIS IS A BOOK ABOUT SELF-SABOTAGE.Why we do it, when we do it, and how to stop doing it-for good.Coexisting but conflicting needs create self-sabotaging behaviors. This is why we resist efforts to change, often until they feel completely futile. But by extracting crucial insight from our most damaging habits, building emotional intelligence by better understanding our brains and bodies, releasing past experiences at a cellular level, and learning to act as our highest potential future selves, we can step out of our own way and into our potential.For centuries, the mountain has been used as a metaphor for the big challenges we face, especially ones that seem impossible to overcome. To scale our mountains, we actually have to do the deep internal work of excavating trauma, building resilience, and adjusting how we show up for the climb.In the end, it is not the mountain we master, but ourselves.

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