Losing Love Doesn’t Mean Losing Yourself

Act with the utmost respect toward yourself. Because the way you treat yourself is the way, the people are going to treat you. So love yourself and embrace who you really are.

We look for people to love that recreate the feelings of love we knew from childhood. But the love we absorbed in childhood was intermingled with painful aspects: a feeling of not measuring up; a love for a fragile parent.

This predisposes us to pick partners with whom we ...

Do the inner work you need to do to be happy on your own. If you don’t take responsibility for your life and feelings or often judge and harm yourself, you will meet someone who is also abandoning themselves in various ways.

We meet each other at our common level of self-abandonment ...