In this book, Devora Zack shared that everyone falls somewhere in between Cacti or Snowflake personality. This will effect on how we think, perceive, react even how we speak.Knowing where we are in this personality continuum, also where our peers, family and friends in this spectrum will help us to temper our response. And this will improve our relationships in life and in work.

Working With Both And Thrive Together

10. Under pressure, attention and firmness OR caring and comsoderation?11. Reason OR compassion12. Share a bad news plainly OR trying to lighten the impact13. Analytical OR appreciative14. Decide based on logic and fairness OR kindness and feeling15. Value more plain truth and objectivity OR peace and belonging Count how many questions you pick on first option, more first options means more cactus you are. You rely on head,logic and fairness.More number of second options means you fall more toward snowflake. You value peace, emphaty and relationship.Or you are in between, the bridge-builder.

Focus your attention on fine-tuning yourself rather than futilely attempting to fix others. Same experience may be perceived differently by snowflake and cacti.A group exchange in high energy can be perceived as spirited discussion by cacti but also as a potential conflict by snowflakes.

Same Event, Different Perspective

Take perspective of others to find the balance. Cacti might see snowflakes as illogical, but snowflakes see cacti as lack of care.Treat people not only as you would have them treat you but also as they would like to be treated. Say a simple hello and have a small talk will make a snowflake smiles and feel respected, while direct conversation works better with cacti.Knowing well how to treat people based on their personality will differentiate you from others who dont know how to do so.

Dont Stereotype, Have Consious Bias And Never Demeaning Others

Finding where you and others doesnt mean you need to change people, but to know how to deal with them.See below questions and pick which one you prefer:<ol><li>Your daily to-do list OR make someone else's day</li><li>For someone you'll never see again, do you care whether they like you OR you strive to have good image</li><li>Work with direct people OR connected people</li><li>Direct OR diplomatic</li><li>Intellect and skill OR emphaty</li><li>Lead with head OR heart</li><li>Teams following procedure or teams that feel safe and value effectiveness</li><li>Leader is ability or caring</li><li>Contribute directly or by dealing with people10.</li></ol>

Find Where You And Others Are

In general, snowflake 'feel' and cacti more rational. About 60% women towards to snowflake and 70% men to cacti, so we cannot just assume based on gender. Carl Jung's typologi also said that everyone are somewhere in between. This also may shift througout our life and no such anyone is superior 'place' to any other.

Everyone Is Either Snowflake, Cactus Or Somewhere In Between

Cater your language, use both personality in the right moment. I.e. in meeting, cacti style sometimes is more needed. However, in delivering performance review, snowflake style is needed.

Watch How You Speak

Control your thinking, what you say and what you do. If you tend to snowflake, trust your feeling. If you are cacti, leverage your logic. If you are a leader, surround your self with intermix of type. Build a team with a bit balance in number of snowflake and cacti.

Self Improve For Better Interactions

The shadow facet of our personality isn the hidden part of ourselves woth which we dont consiously identify. Awareness of yourself and others allow for interventions that might prevent a shadow state from dominating. In these critical condition, acknowledge people's feelings, ask how you can help and work on coping strategies with them.

Know Your Trigger

Knowing where we are, and strive side by sise

This hilarious and profound workplace guide proves the rigorously rational and the supremely sympathetic can meet in the middle and merge their strengths. Readers will discover how blending with their opposite opens the pathway to being their truest selves. The famed Myers-Briggs personality scale says that Feelers (who lead with their hearts) put more weight on personal concerns and the people involved, and Thinkers (who lead with their heads) are guided by objective principles and impartial facts. This book calls them Cacti and Snowflakes—each singularly transcendent. But can people with such fundamentally different ways of making sense of and engaging with the world work together? Yes, says Devora Zack! The key is not to try to change each other. Zack says we can directly control only three things: what we say, what we think, and what we do. The best use of our energy is to focus on our own reactions and perceptions rather than try to “fix” other people. This book includes an assessment so readers can learn where they are on the Thinker/Feeler spectrum—and because it's a spectrum, readers might well be a snowcactus or a cactusflake. Then Zack helps them figure out where other people might be, guiding them through a myriad of modes of communication and motivation based on personality type. She includes real-life scenarios that show how to nurture one's nature while successfully connecting with those on the other side. As always, Zack fearlessly and entertainingly dispels myths, squashes stereotypes, and transforms perceived liabilities into strengths. And she once again affirms that, like chocolate and peanut butter, we are better together.

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This hilarious and profound workplace guide proves the rigorously rational and the supremely sympathetic can meet in the middle and merge their strengths. Readers will discover how blending with their opposite opens the pathway to being their truest selves. Carl Jung's personality typology introduced the distinction that Feelers (who lead with their hearts) put more weight on personal concerns and the people involved, and Thinkers (who lead with their heads) are guided by objective principles and impartial facts. This book calls them Cacti and Snowflakes—each singularly transcendent. But can people with such fundamentally different ways of making sense of and engaging with the world work together? Yes, says Devora Zack! The key is not to try to change each other. Zack says we can directly control only three things: what we say, what we think, and what we do. The best use of our energy is to focus on our own reactions and perceptions rather than try to “fix” other people. This book includes an assessment so readers can learn where they are on the Thinker/Feeler spectrum—and because it's a spectrum, readers might well be a snowcactus or a cactusflake. Then Zack helps them figure out where other people might be, guiding them through a myriad of modes of communication and motivation based on personality type. She includes real-life scenarios that show how to nurture one's nature while successfully connecting with those on the other side. As always, Zack fearlessly and entertainingly dispels myths, squashes stereotypes, and transforms perceived liabilities into strengths. And she once again affirms that, like chocolate and peanut butter, we are better together.

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