"If you have nothing good to say, remain silent. Each time you open your mouth to speak, you're letting others know the state of your mind & what's in your heart. If your heart is filled with bitterness, it will come out in your words. Be mindful of what's going on inside you!"

" We are not created to please creation but rather to please the creator. "

" You don't have to be good at something in order to enjoy it. "

" You are trying to understand madness with logic! This is not unlike searching for darkness with a torch.

" Dont grieve. Anything you lose comes round in another form. "

" A lot of people become unattractive once you find out how they think. "

" A fool is known by his speech; a wise man by silence. "

" Don't be afraid to start over again. This time, you are not starting from scratch, but from experience. "

" Do not disturb yourself by imagining your whole life at once.

" Just because you pain is unbearable, doesn't mean that your behaviour is acceptable. "

" No one is perfect Charlie brown. That's why pencils have erasers.

" The bravest people don't mind looking like cowards.

" Who are we to judge other when we walk imperfectly ourselves. "

These quotes will start getting you thinking about life...

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Quotes that will get you thinking.

Most of the time, people's reactions reflect their own issues, not yours. Realizing this can be the first step toward not taking things personally.

Understand It's Not About You

Know your triggers. By understanding what makes you sensitive, you can work on desensitizing yourself and reacting calmly.

Build Self-Awareness

Separate your self-worth from external opinions. Remember, your value isn't dictated by others' thoughts.

Practice Emotional Detachment

When faced with criticism, pause and reflect before responding. This helps in reducing the emotional impact.

Learn to Respond, Not React

Try to understand the other person's perspective. Often, their behavior is a result of something deeper.

Empathy Goes a Long Way

See criticism as an opportunity to grow rather than a personal attack. It shifts your focus from defense to improvement.

Develop a Growth Mindset

Protect your emotional space by setting clear boundaries. This helps in reducing the chances of taking things to heart.

Set Boundaries

Counter negative comments with positive affirmations about yourself. This reinforces your self-esteem.

Engage in Positive Self-Talk

Keep your goals and values at the forefront. This focus will help you stay grounded and unaffected by minor setbacks.

Remember Your Purpose

Engage with people who uplift and support you. Their positive influence will help you stay resilient.

Surround Yourself with Support

Stay present and aware of your emotions. Mindfulness helps you recognize when you're starting to take things personally and allows you to refocus.

Practice Mindfulness

"Your worth is not determined by the opinions of others, but by the strength of your inner voice."

Unlocking Inner Strength by Separating Emotion from Situation

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Mastering the Art of Not Taking Things Personally

" Patience can cook a stone ."

" Until the lion learns how to write, the story will always glorify the hunter. "

" The easier the path, the easier to slip in it. "

" When the character of a man is not clear to you, look at his friends. "

" A smooth sea never made a skillful sailor. "

" Patience is bitter, but it's fruit is sweet. "

" A kind word can open a iron wall.

" You have to do your own growing, no matter how tall your father was.

" A half truth is a whole lie. "

" A wise never knows everything. Only the fool does. "

" Change how you see and see how you change.

" Be the master of the mind, not mastered by the mind "

" The one who teaches is a giver of the eyes.

" To know the road ahead, ask the ones coming back. "

" There is a deep sea between saying and doing. "

Proverbs

<ul><li>It's hard to upgrade your life all of a sudden, to become better without losing something along the way.</li><li>Are you feeling lost because a very big and sudden and unexpected change happened to you recently and now it makes you feel like an outsider to your own life?</li><li>But here's the thing: no matter how lost you might be feeling right now, how tired or uncertain, turning your life around is going to be worth it.</li></ul>

It's Going To Be Worth It

We often want it so bad that we ruin it before it begins. Overthinking. Fantasizing. Imagining. Expecting. Worrying. Doubting. Just let it naturally evolve.

<ul><li>Upgrade your life by letting go of some things. </li><li>When you're feeling too overwhelmed with your life and your future, take a moment aside and forget everything.</li><li>All your problems and all the drama in your life. Forget.</li></ul>

Letting Go Of Some Things

We think too much and feel too little.

Stop doing the things that don't make you feel alive, don't instill inside you the fire to keep going on. Do something else. Expand, try out new things. The whole world is waiting for you out there.

If You Lose Motivation, Stop

<ul><li>The problem with all social media apps is that they make you focus too much on other people's lives and not enough on your own. </li><li>If you're actually looking to get your life together, just let go of this superficial stuff for some time.</li></ul>

Delete Social Media

<ul><li>What's your why? Why are you doing this? What's your reason for working so hard? </li><li>We all have a purpose for coming here, to make the world a better, far better place. What's yours?</li></ul>

Rethink Your 'Why'

<ul><li>Of your sleep.</li><li>Stop all unhealthy dopamine sources </li><li>Distance yourself from people you don't want in your life anymore.</li></ul>

Take Care...

You don't need someone else to make you feel loved or motivated. Just romanticise self love.

Romanticize Self-love

Now that you're on the path to building a new life, it's time to set some new goals too.You've found new motivation, new drive, new love, new dreams.

Set Goals

Don't Settle For Less That What You Deserve

Spend more time doing the things that steal your heart, with people who touch your soul, in places where you feel nostalgic.

On Doing Things You Love

When your life is a mess, read the simplest and easiest book on your shelf. Don't try The Silmarillion for the time being.

Read Simple Stories

You're doing this because you need this. Don't let anyone talk you out of it.

You're Doing This For Yourself

You're one decision away from getting your life back together, form creating a life you'll be proud of.The time is right now. Start.

The Time Is Now

Straightforward, uncensored steps on how to get your sh*t together in life, because even if you don't realise the urgency of the matter yet, this one life is all you get.

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How to Get Your Life Together

Nowadays, everyone has an opinion, and — let’s face it — so many of us feel entitled to express them all the time. There should be more attention and respect given to silence. I’m all for freedom of expression. I’m a libertarian on specific issues, but that doesn’t mean I always have to exercise those rights.

Silence has a way of speaking for itself without words. It allows us time to process our thoughts and emotions before we act or respond. This can be helpful in times of stress, anger, confusion, or when we want to avoid saying something rash. Instead of being quick-tempered, silence allows us to reflect on what we want to say.

What is the Power of Silence?

Silence can also be a form of respect — particularly when someone else needs to talk, and you are willing to listen. This type of respectful listening can create trust and build relationships. It indicates that we are interested in expressing our opinions and open to hearing the other person’s point of view.To practice silence means to take a step back and assess situations before jumping into them. It allows us to think through different perspectives without getting swept away with emotions or biased outlooks. It gives us time to reflect on what has been said instead of responding right away.

“Never miss a good chance to shut up.” — Will Rogers

<ul><li>Make time for yourself every day . Carve out when you can be alone and unplugged, whether for a few minutes or an hour. Meditate, journal, read, or sit with your thoughts — whatever helps you find peace within yourself.</li><li>Avoid multitasking when possible . Multitasking takes away from being present at the moment. It robs us of the opportunity to be silent and listen.</li><li>Pay attention to your body and feelings . Make sure you take a few moments every day to check in with yourself, noting any physical sensations or emotions that come up as you go about your day.</li></ul>

How To Practice Mindful Silence in Everyday Life

<ul><li>Practice being present during conversations . Be mindful of how much time is spent talking versus listening when conversing with others — if it’s one-sided, try to shift the focus back to what the other person has been saying.</li><li>Take regular breaks from technology and social media . This can help reduce stress levels and allow you to be with yourself for a bit! When scrolling through your newsfeeds, try to be conscious about what you’re seeing and how it’s making you feel.</li></ul>

<ul><li>Take deep breaths when you feel overwhelmed or stressed — this will help calm your mind and body so that you can think more clearly without getting swept away in emotions.</li><li>Listen intently before responding — instead of immediately jumping into the conversation, take a few moments to listen and process what is being said before forming an opinion or response.</li><li>Take breaks from conversations — if you get too caught up in discussions, step back to give yourself some space. This allows you to re-focus and think more clearly without being too invested in the conversation.</li></ul>

<ul><li>Reflect on what you say before speaking — take a few moments to consider your words before speaking out loud. This will help ensure that you are communicating effectively and not saying something that could be misinterpreted or hurtful.</li><li>Be present and attentive — when someone else is talking, pay attention to them instead of letting your mind wander off into its thoughts. This shows respect for their opinion and makes them feel heard.</li></ul>

“He who does not understand your silence will probably not understand your words.” — Elbert Hubbard

One can gain clarity and peace of mind by taking time away from the chaos of everyday life to be with oneself.

Ancient Philosophies Used Silence to Gain Deep Insight

Buddhism utilizes silent meditation techniques to help people reach enlightenment and inner peace. Silence is a way to tap into their inner thoughts and feelings without distraction from the world’s noise.

The Stoic philosopher Epictetus also advocated using silence to learn about oneself and deepen one’s understanding of the world. He believed that one should practice self-discipline, restraint, and reflection to gain insight into the nature of life. He argued that one could learn to understand their thoughts, behaviors, and emotions better by spending time in silence and solitude.

Finally, Indian philosophy utilized silence to understand the universe better. The Upanishads, ancient Hindu texts containing spiritual teachings on life and death, emphasize the importance of being still to access higher levels of consciousness. It is believed that one can explore new realms of thought and reach enlightenment by practicing silent meditation techniques such as yoga Nidra (deep relaxation) and pranayama (breathing exercises).

Nowadays, everyone has an opinion, and — let’s face it — so many of us feel entitled to express them all the time. There should be more attention and respect given to silence. I’m all for freedom of…

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The Power of Silence and Staying Quiet | How To Practice Mindful Silence in Everyday Life

There is a difference between listening to speak, and listening to understand. Most people like to talk about themselves, and so most people listen to interject.

Most People Don't Listen To Others

That attending skills help your conversation partner feel understood and heard. These include:- Eye contact for empathy - Minimal responses for encouragement (ie. "mm" "yeah" "whoa" etc.) - Tone of voice (ie. soft, concerned, etc.)- Appropriate body language (leaning forward, facial expressions, not fidgeting excessively, etc.)- Prompts to continue ("How so?" "How did that make you feel?" "How did you respond?) From McLeod & McLead, 2011: Counselling Skills: A practical guide for counsellors and helping professionals

The Counselling Science Says...

Listening is not about teaching, shaping, critiquing, appraising, or showing how it should be done... listening is about the experience of being experienced

There's a tricky sweet spot to find because not enough eye contact can be invalidating (think of a time you were telling a story and no one was listening), but TOO much eye contact can be overwhelming and can create shame.From Geldard et al., 2016: Basic Personal Counselling: A training manual for counsellors

Eye Contact

In therapy, therapists use a skill called paraphrasing to condense a story into a sentence (like a blurb for a book) for a few reasons:- To better help the client reflect- To help organise thoughts- To show the client they have been heard- To allow the client to correct any misunderstandingsBut good paraphrasing is never just regurgitating what you've heard using the same words, it's finding the underlying issue and using your own words. This helps the person not only feel heard, but understood.From Geldard et al., 2016: Basic Personal Counselling: A training manual for counsellors

Paraphrasing

The science shows that non-verbal behaviours can connect therapists and clients and build a close relationship as well as decrease malpractice complaints. This shows the importance of active listening with the body. "Trunk lean" can also be used to show interest and make people feel engaged. Trunk lean is moving your body forward, not sitting back. From Dowell & Berman, 2013: Therapists Non-verbal Behaviour and Perceptions of Empathy, Alliance, and Treatment Credibility

Body Language

True empathy is always free of any evaluative or diagnostic quality. This comes across to the recipient with some surprise. "If I am not being judged, perhaps I am not so evil or abnormal as I have thought"

How to be a better conversationalist using the listening  skills therapists use

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YOU'RE NOT LISTENING! How to listen using skills therapists use

Patience is not simply the ability to wait - it's how we behave while we're waiting.

<h2></h2><h3>Cultivate Positive Behavior While Waiting</h3><ul><li>How can you improve your behavior and attitude while waiting for something important?</li></ul><h3>Practice Mindful Patience</h3><ul><li>Being mindful during waiting periods can help you stay calm and focused.</li><li>Patience is about being present and composed, not just enduring time.</li></ul><h3>Reflect on Your Attitude in Waiting</h3><ul><li>Reflecting on your attitude during waiting periods can help you develop stronger patience.</li><li>Assess how your attitude aligns with your values while you wait.</li><li>How does your current attitude during waiting reflect your inner patience?</li></ul>

Practice Patience in Behavior, Not Just in Waiting

I may not be where I want to be, but thank God I am not where I used to be.

Celebrate Your Progress <ul><li> Joyce Meyer emphasizes the importance of thanking God for progress, even if the journey isn't complete.</li><li>How can you celebrate the progress you've made in your life today?</li></ul> Practice Gratitude Daily <ul><li>Expressing thanks for not being where you used to be is a key to maintaining a positive outlook.</li><li>What are you grateful for today that marks progress from your past?</li></ul> Focus on the Journey <ul><li> Focusing on the journey and the growth you've experienced can help you stay motivated. </li><li>How can you find joy in your journey, even if you haven't reached your final goal?</li></ul>

Be Grateful for Progress, Not Just Perfection

Consider a tree for a moment. As beautiful as trees are to look at, we don't see what goes on underground - as they grow roots. Trees must develop deep roots in order to grow strong and produce their beauty. But we don't see the roots. We just see and enjoy the beauty. In much the same way, what goes on inside of us is like the roots of a tree.

<h3>Focus on Inner Strength</h3><ul><li>True strength comes from within, much like a tree’s beauty is rooted in its unseen foundation.</li><li>The roots of a tree, though hidden, provide the stability and nourishment needed for its beauty.</li><li>How can you cultivate inner strength to support your external actions and appearance?</li></ul><h3>Value Inner Development Over Outer Appearance</h3><ul><li>While outer beauty is visible, it is the inner work, like the roots of a tree, that sustains and nourishes lasting growth.</li><li>What steps can you take today to focus more on inner development rather than outward appearances?</li></ul>

Cultivate Inner Growth for Lasting Strength

Prayer doesn't just change things - it changes us. If we are diligent in seeking God, slowly and surely we become better people.

<h2>Be Diligent in Prayer</h2><ul><li>Consistent prayer deepens your relationship with God and brings about positive change within you.</li></ul><h3>Embrace the Transformative Power of Prayer</h3><ul><li>Prayer not only affects our circumstances but also transforms us from within.</li><li>Prayer changes us, helping us grow into better versions of ourselves.</li><li>In what ways have you noticed prayer changing you?</li></ul><h3>Seek God for Personal Growth</h3><ul><li>Seeking God through prayer leads to personal growth, helping you align more closely with His will.</li><li>Through prayer, we seek God and gradually become more aligned with His purpose for us.</li></ul>

Allow Prayer to Transform You

When you feel like it's too hard to obey God, remember that He will never tell you to do something without giving you the grace, power and ability to do it.

<h3>Rely on God's Grace</h3><ul><li>God provides the grace needed to follow His commands, even when they seem difficult.</li><li>How can you trust in God's grace when facing challenging tasks?</li></ul><h3>Believe in God's Power</h3><ul><li>God equips you with the power needed to obey His will, no matter how hard it may seem.</li><li>Even when obedience feels tough, God provides the power to see it through.</li></ul><h3>Have Faith in God's Ability</h3><ul><li>God's ability to provide is greater than any challenge you face.</li><li>How can you strengthen your faith in God's ability to help you obey Him?</li></ul>

Trust in God's Grace and Power for Obedience

The truth is, if we don't learn to submit to authority, we won't ever learn to submit to God.

Practicing Submission to Earthly Authority helps us learn discipline and humility, preparing us to submit to God's authority.How can we better submit to our authority figures to honor God?<ul><li>Recognize the importance of authority and how it helps build a foundation for spiritual growth and obedience to God</li></ul>Submitting to God's authority requires practice and discipline, which can be cultivated by submitting to earthly authority. Joyce Meyer reminds us that true submission to God begins with learning to submit in everyday situations.

Learn Submission to Authority as a Path to Obeying God

Integrate simple reflection techniques into your daily routine, helping you to gain insights, set clear goals, and enhance your overall well-being. By adopting these practices, you’ll begin to experience positive changes that can shape a more fulfilling and purpose-driven future.

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Problem Solving

Apply Reflective Practices Today to Enhance Your Life Tomorrow

Everybody’s got a story. We don’t share it on social media; we share our nice life on social media. We all have a dungeon; I’m just willing to talk about mine. Most of us aren’t willing to talk about it. Mental toughness isn't something that you sample; it’s something that you live in, everyday.

Whenever hardness comes - and you don’t know when it is, and it may be different for you than it is for me - you go back to your insecurities. And when you go back to your insecurities, you then look for comfort within these insecurities. You look for that “cookie” that your mama gave you when you were sad, when you were sick.It’s a mental standard, you must meet in life.

It’s something that you live in, everyday.

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Mental Toughness Isn’t Something You Sample | David Goggins

<ol>
<li>Counting calories is the best way to reach your goals</li>
<li>Home workouts are only for beginners</li>
<li>Low fat or fat-free products are healthier choices</li>
<li>Skipping meals help with weight loss</li>
<li>Only cardio reduces body fat</li>
</ol>

Myths That Need To Die

<ol><li>More sweat= better workout </li><li>You can only grow muscles with heavy weights</li><li>If you’re not sore you didn’t exercise enough</li><li>Only long exercises count</li><li>Everything you see on social media is right</li></ol>

Healthy diet is the diet, when you eat healthy food and soul food, too, and when you feel happy and satisfied.

Healthy Diet

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10 Fitness Myths That Need to Die

"True freedom is the courage to be disliked."

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">The Courage to Be Disliked is a transformative dialogue between a philosopher and a young man seeking answers about life, happiness, and personal fulfilment.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">The book is deeply rooted in the principles of Alfred Adler's psychology, offering a refreshing perspective on how to live a life free from the burdens of past experiences and societal expectations.</li></ul>

Finding Happiness and Freedom: A Life-Changing Conversation

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">The book highlights that our past doesn't have to hold us back. Adlerian psychology talked about in the book, says that we can make our way no matter what happened in the past. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">This differs from Freudian psychology, which often examines the past to explain present behaviour. People who see things this way are more likely to take responsibility for their actions and realize they can change their lives at any time.</li></ul>

1. The past doesn't make you who you are

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">According to Adler, many of our troubles come from problems with others. How we treat and deal with others can make us feel bad about ourselves, lower our self-esteem, and cause anxiety.</li><li class="ql-align-justify"> The book says that we can get through these problems if we work on our relationships and put more emphasis on society and giving back.</li></ul>

2. All problems come from relationships with other people

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">One of the book's main ideas is that wanting other people's approval can be a major cause of unhappiness. Being true to yourself means being accessible, even if other people don't like it. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">It takes bravery to do this, but it leads to a more satisfying life where you are true to yourself instead of living to please other people.</li></ul>

3. The Courage to Be Disliked

"Happiness is not something given to you by others; it is something you create for yourself."

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">The book tells people to enjoy the present moment and not worry too much about the past or the future. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">Focusing on the present lets us enjoy life more and be happy in the here and now instead of always trying to reach a far-away goal.</li></ul>

4. Living in the Present

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">The idea of making other people happy is emphasised as a way to find personal fulfilment. The philosopher says that doing things that help other people makes you happy, not doing things that are only about yourself. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">This change from focusing on yourself to focusing on others is seen as the key to long-lasting happiness.</li></ul>

5. Making a difference in the world

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">The Courage to Be Disliked goes against what most people think: You can only be truly happy if you accept yourself, live in the moment, and have the courage to be disliked. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">It gives readers a strong framework for personal growth and encourages them to take charge of their lives and focus on what really matters: being themselves and making a difference in the world.</li></ul>

Conclusion

Ready to break free from the need for approval? This is your guide to true happiness.

A single book can change your life. Already an enormous bestseller in Asia, with more than 3 million copies sold, The Courage to be Disliked demonstrates how to unlock the power within yourself to be the person you truly want to be. Using the theories of Alfred Adler, one of the three giants of 19th century psychology alongside Freud and Jung, it follows an illuminating conversation between a philosopher and a young man. The philosopher explains to his pupil how each of us is able to determine our own lives, free of the shackles of past experiences, doubts and the expectations of others. It's a way of thinking that's deeply liberating, allowing us to develop the courage to change, and to ignore the limitations that we and those around us can place on ourselves. The result is a book that is both highly accessible and profound in its importance. Millions have already read and benefited from its wisdom. Now that The Courage to be Disliked has been published for the first time in English, so can you

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