Lack of confidence is created by fear. Fear is real and the sure of the fear is not just an imagination. Imagining you don’t have fear might help in short run but will never benefit in log run. Even though fear is real, it’s psychological. Admitting no one is born with confidence, it is just the matter of hard work can cure fear. Action cures fear whereas the postponement and indecision only fertilises the fear. Anytime next you experience fear, isolate fear and steady yourself, have hope and back it off by action.

BUILD CONFIDENCE AND DESTROY FEAR:

Embarrassment because of personal appearance: Practise better grooming.Fear of losing an important customer: Build confidence by giving better service.Fear of falling examination: Convert worry time to study time.Fear of things beyond your control: Pray.Fear of being physically hurt by something you can’t control: Switch attention to something else.Fear of what other people may think and say: Make sure your plan is right, then do it.Fear of making investment: Analysis, Decide and trust your decision.Fear of people: Think other people is also a human being.

TYPES OF FEAR AND ACTION TO OVERCOME THEM:

Always remember your brain is much like a bank, where thoughts get deposited. You can never withdraw the thought that you never deposited. Always make sure the thought you deposit will be the one you’ll be looking for when you withdraw. Never deposit negative thoughts like fear.

Thought!

Withdraw only positive thoughts: Destroy the negative thoughts before they becomes mental monster. Negative thoughts are fertilised by repeated thoughts which will break confidence and eventually create psychological difficulties. Be it big or small if anyone knows how to withdraw the positive thoughts instead of negative the problem is solved.

Always deposit only positive thoughts. Everyone goes through unpleasant and discouraging situation. Negative thoughts will only produce needless wear and tear to the mental memory which lead to frustration and disappointment. Always think about some things positive when negative thoughts enter in the mind. Think of good times, gratitude towards parents, teacher or some good works or just be glad to be alive.

Magic of thinking book should be read once by everyone.

The timeless and practical advice in The Magic of Thinking Big "Believe Big, "says Schwartz. "The size of your success is determined by the size of your belief. Think little goals and expect little achievements. Think big goals and win big success. Remember this, too! Big ideas and big plans are often easier -- certainly no more difficult - than small ideas and small plans."

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The timeless and practical advice in The Magic of Thinking Big clearly demonstrates how you can: <ul><li>Sell more</li><li>Manage better</li><li>Lead fearlessly</li><li>Earn more</li><li>Enjoy a happier, more fulfilling life </li><li>With applicable and easy-to-implement insights, you’ll discover:</li><li>Why believing you can succeed is essential</li><li>How to quit making excuses</li><li>The means to overcoming fear and finding confidence</li><li>How to develop and use creative thinking and dreaming</li><li>Why making (and getting) the most of your attitudes is critical</li><li>How to think right towards others</li><li>The best ways to make “action” a habit</li><li>How to find victory in defeat</li><li>Goals for growth, and</li><li>How to think like a leader</li></ul>  "Believe Big,” says Schwartz. “The size of your success is determined by the size of your belief. Think little goals and expect little achievements. Think big goals and win big success. Remember this, too! Big ideas and big plans are often easier -- certainly no more difficult - than small ideas and small plans."

David Joseph Schwartz PhD (March 23, 1927 – December 6, 1987) was an American motivational writer and coach, best known for authoring The Magic of Thinking Big in 1959.He was a professor at Georgia State University and also began his own work as a self-help coach and life strategist. Later, he founded his own consultancy firm focusing on leadership development called 'Creative Educational Services Inc'.He became well known through his motivational publications and self-help books, especially for The Magic of Thinking Big, published in 1959.

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Powerful Quotes From Harry Potter That You Can Apply To Reality. "Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light" - Albus Dumbledore

Quotes You Can Connect...

"I am what I am, an’ I’m not ashamed."

"If you want to know what a man’s like, take a good look at how he treats his inferiors, not his equals."

"It is our choices ... that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.”

"You have to realize who you are."

We’ve all got both light and dark inside us. What matters is the part we choose to act on. That’s who we really are.

"Family…Whatever yeh say, blood’s important. . . ."

"Time will not slow down when something unpleasant lies ahead."

"Understanding is the first step to acceptance, and only with acceptance can there be recovery."

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Anxiety is a roadmap that points us to a real or imagined threat, pain from the past or something in the present that needs our attention. While anxiety can be debilitating and must be managed, we need it. If we disable or mute our anxiety indicators, we won't know where the problem is.

We need anxiety

Thoughts can help shape behaviour and therefore reality. But motivation is mostly a physiological issue, not a mind issue. The "fight, flight, or freeze" response is activated by a physiological mechanism inside the nervous system. When you are stuck in fight or flight, such as panic or racing thoughts, you are not able to think your way out. Turning the amygdala response off is the key to motivation. The amygdala is your panic button in the brain. If your brain is perceiving a threat, it will shut down your system (procrastination) or put it in hyperarousal (motivation).

You can't think your way out of stuck

"Mental" health has very little to do with our minds. A nervous system stuck in a fight, flight, or freeze response will show the exact symptoms as clinical depression or pathological anxiety. The nervous system is not an illness or disorder. It is doing exactly what it is designed to do. When a brain is stuck in fight, flight, or freeze it is misattuning to safety and danger in the environment. If we see mental health as an actual physical process, then we have a greater chance of finding our way to tools that can get ourselves unstuck.

Mental health is a physical process

The actions that destroy our plans and relationships are a suboptimal effort at self-protection. What we call “self-sabotage” often happens because if you achieve a goal, things will need to change. All change involves some degree of loss. Any change to our status quo can trigger a threat response as change requires risk.

Self-sabotage is a misnomer


Not all behaviour is acceptable, but all behaviour is functional. Behaviour modification without understanding behaviour will almost always make us inert. You don't need to make giant behavioural transformations to get unstuck-getting unstuck requires tiny micro-shifts, and those shifts compound rapidly. Once you're in motion, your cognitive work suddenly becomes powerful.

All behavior is functional

A psychotherapist insists, “‘Mental’ health has very little to do with our minds.”


Understand yourself and those around you.

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There’s no such thing as self-sabotage. A psychotherapist debunks the most common concepts that keep us stuck

If You See A Person Drowning

One Of The Best Pieces Of Advice 

Take comfort in the fact that you will die.

Facto Solace Mori

When faced with one's own mortality, the mind tries desperately to find meaning where there is none.

When A Person Dies

Sometimes to succeed, one must die.

Happiness is an illusion for those with feeble minds. - Bertrude Russell

Giving up is often times the best thing one can do.

Patty and Walter Berglund were the new pioneers of old St. Paul—the gentrifiers, the hands-on parents, the avant-garde of the Whole Foods generation. Patty was the ideal sort of neighbor, who could tell you where to recycle your batteries and how to get the local cops to actually do their job. She was an enviably perfect mother and the wife of Walter's dreams. Together with Walter—environmental lawyer, commuter cyclist, total family man—she was doing her small part to build a better world. But now, in the new millennium, the Berglunds have become a mystery. Why has their teenage son moved in with the aggressively Republican family next door? Why has Walter taken a job working with Big Coal? What exactly is Richard Katz—outré rocker and Walter's college best friend and rival—still doing in the picture? Most of all, what has happened to Patty? Why has the bright star of Barrier Street become "a very different kind of neighbor," an implacable Fury coming unhinged before the street's attentive eyes? In his first novel since The Corrections, Jonathan Franzen has given us an epic of contemporary love and marriage. Freedom comically and tragically captures the temptations and burdens of liberty: the thrills of teenage lust, the shaken compromises of middle age, the wages of suburban sprawl, the heavy weight of empire. In charting the mistakes and joys of Freedom's characters as they struggle to learn how to live in an ever more confusing world, Franzen has produced an indelible and deeply moving portrait of our time.

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Patty and Walter Berglund were the new pioneers of old St. Paul—the gentrifiers, the hands-on parents, the avant-garde of the Whole Foods generation. Patty was the ideal sort of neighbor, who could tell you where to recycle your batteries and how to get the local cops to actually do their job. She was an enviably perfect mother and the wife of Walter's dreams. Together with Walter—environmental lawyer, commuter cyclist, total family man—she was doing her small part to build a better world. But now, in the new millennium, the Berglunds have become a mystery. Why has their teenage son moved in with the aggressively Republican family next door? Why has Walter taken a job working with Big Coal? What exactly is Richard Katz—outré rocker and Walter's college best friend and rival—still doing in the picture? Most of all, what has happened to Patty? Why has the bright star of Barrier Street become "a very different kind of neighbor," an implacable Fury coming unhinged before the street's attentive eyes? In his first novel since The Corrections, Jonathan Franzen has given us an epic of contemporary love and marriage. Freedom comically and tragically captures the temptations and burdens of liberty: the thrills of teenage lust, the shaken compromises of middle age, the wages of suburban sprawl, the heavy weight of empire. In charting the mistakes and joys of Freedom's characters as they struggle to learn how to live in an ever more confusing world, Franzen has produced an indelible and deeply moving portrait of our time.

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. follow the thread and become a charming one

Be Unstoppable

Steps: 1) Identify negative thoughts that pop into your mind and write them down 2) Understand the distortion happening with each thought 3) Write a reframed positive version of those thoughts 3) Speak those new positive thoughts as affirmations each day

1. Positive Thinking

Steps: 1) Set one, specific, measurable fitness goal and write it down 2) Make it simple and easy to achieve Eg. 10 pushups before bed 3) Log it daily, keep it simple in the beginning 4) Try to improve on the goal each day/week Eg. 1 more rep

2. Exercise 

Steps: 1) Choose one task you want to get done 2) Plan and dedicate a block of time to do the task 3) Set a time limit to achieve it in 4) Turn your notifications off to get rid of distractions 5) Deep work until the task is done

3. Single tasking 

- Stop procrastinating - Become a top 1% male - Build unstoppable habits - Gain top tier confidence Read "Iron Clad Discipline" and become an unstoppable man.

4. Men, if you want to: 

Steps: 1) Choose an early and consistent waking time 2) Find your intentions for the morning (Workout, homework, business ect) 3) Choose productive habits that align with your intentions 4) Start with a big and healthy breakfast

5. Morning Routine 

Unstoppable people are like warriors. They are always ready to take on the world. They are guided by a light from within, full of boundless energy and unwavering in their goals. They have learned to activate their natural talents and develop the skills necessary to achieve whatever they aim for.

Time management is the ability to use your time efficiently. This is something that cannot be learned but practiced in your daily life, so to make the best use of your time make the strategies ahead.

5 Strategies for Better Time Management

Write down your task you need to accomplish on daily basis, make routine for your day by creating a list of things get to be done with sequence, by planning daily it will help you achieve maximum time productivity.

1. Daily Planner

Always assign a time to a particular task, by doing this you have a time frame in your mind that will help you to focus on your task without any distraction.

2. Time Limit

Everyone has their best productive hours in a day were they accomplish task easily without any distraction or hassle, find your productive hour by observing your daily time schedule and make sure to finish your major task during your productive hours.

3. Productive Hours

This principle teaches us that 80% of the results we achieve are from 20% of our actions, so focus on to find the task which is more important to finish for the day, by finish the major tasks you will achieve maximum results with less time.

4. Pareto Principle

Avoid the major distraction that is Smartphone keep it silent and away while performing your task, keep your desk neat and clean remove unnecessary things from your desk to just focus on your end results.

5. Remove Distractions

Time management is very curial for better productivity,so i have pointed out some tips to manage time for better productivity.

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<ul><li>We live in a world where people are so afraid of being disliked that They would rather change their whole personality than accept the fact that there are people who dislike them. </li><li>Just by this deep-rooted desire to be liked by everyone Sometimes we even choose a career we do not want and we choose to hang out with people we barely could stand. And for what?</li><li> Even then, there are people who dislike you and there are people who dislike me.</li></ul>

The Courage to be Disliked

It is true that nobody wishes to be disliked. But look at it this way: What should one do to not be disliked by anyone? There is only one answer: It is to constantly gauge other people’s feelings, while swearing loyalty to all of them. If there are ten people then you have to swear loyalty to all of them. When you do that, disapproval by someone is inevitable. You’re nothing but a politician who has fallen into populism, you have no stand but to please other people's needs.The real Freedom is being disliked by other people. It is proof that you’re being your authentic self

What is Real Freedom?

Some people deal with dislike or disapproval in a very different way they would start a fight or an argument. This implies that you’re a tyrant and won't tolerate any opposing force, this is not a solution either. The most ideal way is to be okay with it, Just Have the courage to be disliked.

So What you should do if someone dislikes you?

I am not saying start doing things that everyone dislikes. Just be courageous enough to do what you do despite being disliked, only then you can truly achieve real freedom in this world. Courage is not about becoming indifferent to dislike or disapproval but more like moving ahead while acknowledging the opposing force. That is the psychology of courage by Alfred Adler.

The Psychology of Courage

Alfred Adler was a physician, psychotherapist, and the founder of Adlerian psychology, sometimes called Individual Psychology which is also called the psychology of courage. Adler is often considered one of the big three founders of psychotherapy alongside Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung.Adlerian psychology emphasizes the importance of overcoming feelings of inferiority and gaining a sense of belonging in order to achieve success and happiness.

Who was Adler?

Sometimes in life, You will feel like you’re not enough, you’re not worth it, you're an unwanted loser etc. These feelings are termed feelings of inferiority in Adlerian psychology. Do not fear these emotions, these feelings of inferiority serve you immensely. The point is not to get rid of these emotions. The point is to acknowledge them and keep striving despite feeling like not enough. That's the purpose of all these emotions, to push you forward. They are like a launchpad.  Even the most successful person is constantly suffering from these feelings of inferiority.

Why do we dislike ourselves?

We come into this universe as helpless beings and we all have a universal desire to escape that helpless state. Adler called this pursuit of superiority.In The pursuit of superiority, we are constantly suffering from feelings of inferiority. The pursuit of superiority and the feeling of inferiority are not problems or diseases.

The Pursuit of Superiority

Sometimes we lose the courage to move forward and cling on to our current familiar state. We cannot accept the fact that our lives can be changed by making realistic efforts. When people give up without even trying and say things like” I am not that smart, so I won’t succeed. I am not that good looking enough so I won't be able to become an actor. I don’t have this so I can’t do that. I don't have A, so I can't do B. Inferiority complex is a serious condition where a person gives up without even trying.

What Is an inferiority complex?

I know you have gone down this road many times before so Let’s play this game again for the sake of this discussion. If only I were born as him or her or even in better financial circumstances, my life would be so much better. He or she has it so easy, Why am I the only one who is suffering?When you say if only I were him or her my life would have been so much better. It means that you’re not happy now, right? Say you could snap your fingers to become whoever you want to become, I bet you’d still feel the same way, not in the right body or circumstances.

If only I were born in better circumstances.

You’re so hung up on what you don’t have, that you forget how to make the most of what you have. It’s this perspective of lack or victim mentality that is stopping your growth. I am not saying there are no victims, there are definitely victims. So many terrible things happening all around the world. But With this mindset, you won’t be able to grow as a person. We waste so much of our time and energy by fixating on things that can never be changed. Why not focus on things that we can change. This leads me to one of my favourite quotes of all time.

Your Life Is Decided Here and Now

God grants me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to tell the difference.

This is when I had a major epiphany and I truly realized the real meaning of Self-acceptance. So self-acceptance is: It’s okay for you to be you, not just the way you’re.Because You could be so much more, you can be incomparably better across multi-dimension and in pursuing that better you will find the real meaning of life.

Self-acceptance

It is a tool which is of great use when you’re about to do something you have never done. Self-affirmation is making suggestions such as I can do it or I am strong even when I am not sure if I can or can’t.

Self-affirmation 

So I have heard people say this many times before that my only competition is with me, I only compete with myself but I never truly understood why someone wouldn’t wanna compete with anyone else. Actually, This phrase reflects the true meaning of self-acceptance and healthy feelings of inferiority.

I only compete with myself 

According to Adlerian psychology, A healthy feeling of inferiority doesn’t come from comparing yourself to others, but from comparing yourself to your ideal self. So Make a rule: I will not compare myself to others because it is unhealthy to do so.

Healthy feelings of inferiority

This is one of the reasons why you should have the best version of yourself in writing so you can compare and see, Am I there yet. Do this thing today when you’re free. Write down the best version of yourself, Be as specific as you can be like: My ideal self is Financially independent or Financially abundant, Highly skilled in such and such things, Fit in physique, He or she has this much money in his or her account, Family can rely on him or her. Whatever it is that you see in your best version of yourself, Write it down.

Best version of yourself

Because These ideas changed my whole perspective of life and I started making efforts towards my goals. This book answered a lot of my questions which several adults failed to answer correctly.

A single book can change your life. Already an enormous bestseller in Asia, with more than 3 million copies sold, The Courage to be Disliked demonstrates how to unlock the power within yourself to be the person you truly want to be. Using the theories of Alfred Adler, one of the three giants of 19th century psychology alongside Freud and Jung, it follows an illuminating conversation between a philosopher and a young man. The philosopher explains to his pupil how each of us is able to determine our own lives, free of the shackles of past experiences, doubts and the expectations of others. It's a way of thinking that's deeply liberating, allowing us to develop the courage to change, and to ignore the limitations that we and those around us can place on ourselves. The result is a book that is both highly accessible and profound in its importance. Millions have already read and benefited from its wisdom. Now that The Courage to be Disliked has been published for the first time in English, so can you

Ichiro KISHIMI Philosopher, Adlerian psychologist and translator of English and German languages. Born in 1956.M.A.in philosophy from Kyoto University. Director of the Japanese Society of Adlerian psychology. Former counselor at Maeda Clinic in Kyoto and has taught philosophy and ancient Greek at various institutions such as Kyoto University of Education and Nara Women's University. He presently teaches educational psychology and clinical psychology at Meiji School of Oriental Medicine in Suita, Osaka. Kishimi now has his own private counseling office in Kameoka, Kyoto, and devotes his time to giving lectures on Adlerian Psychology and child education.

Ichiro Kishimi

Fumitake Koga is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Fumitake Koga has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Fumitake Koga's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

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" Don’t let the past blackmail your present to ruin a beautiful future "

" When we understand ourselves well enough ... then it doesn't matter what others think about us ... not at all "

" Sometimes we choose a difficult path only because … we feel that to attain important things we need to choose a difficult path … we think that it’s important to punish ourselves … but why can’t we choose a simple path … what’s wrong with that … especically when we are not ready to face that difficult path "

" To feel safe you first need to remove all your fears "

" If we don’t take the steering wheel of our life in our own hands … thensomeone else will sit on the driver’s seat"

" A person who has the answer to every question is not a genius … a genius is a person who has the patience to get to every answer "

" Albert Einstein had said that … a person is mad when he does the same work everyday … but still expects the result to be different "

" In life when you see a pattern or a habit forming … then you should think about that very carefully … genius is about knowing when to stop "

" If you are not able to cry openly … then how will you laugh openly? "

" When we go to buy chairs we try many before buying one, so then what is the problem in looking for options while selecting a life partner? "

" We Are All Our Own Teachers in the School Of Life "

" Life is like a jigsaw puzzle … people like me can only help you in finding and connecting the puzzle pieces … but only you can complete the puzzle "

10 life hack dialogues from Dear Zindagi which will make your life easier

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"If you struggle with procrastination, read this"

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Concentrate on forming habits by taking small steps forward everyday. If you want to finish a 500 page book. Start by reading 10 pages daily, not 100 pages daily.

Strategies to overcome procrastination: 

Force yourself to start and to make the first step. The hardest step is always the first step. Once you take the first step you forget about procrastination and the job gets done. I definitely recommend reading about the timeboxing technique.

2.  Just start working

Take regular breaks throughout the day<ul><li>walk, </li><li>stretch, </li><li>eat, </li><li>water, </li><li>nap</li><li> Find your peak productive hours and push yourself. When your energy is getting low take those breaks.</li></ul>

3. Consider your energy levels 

<ul><li>Get enough rest (7 – 8 hours), </li><li>eat a healthy diet,</li><li> exercise a few times a week, </li><li>drink enough water, etc. </li><li>Low energy typically leads to procrastination.</li></ul>

4. Find ways to have more energy

Trying to get it perfect will lead to procrastination, and understanding that nothing will ever be perfect will help you beat procrastination. By breaking the habit you will go to places you would have never imagined before.

6. Make sure perfectionism isn't holding you back

LLists will help you feel like you're doing something, and crossing something off as "DONE" will keep you motivated. Making a list will reduce the risk that you forget to do something.

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If you are struggling in life

The greatest ideas are the simplest. Now there was something to be done they worked with passion”

“People don’t help much.”

“Thought was a valuable thing, that got results.”

“There is nothing in it of course. Just a feeling. But you can feel as if you’re not hunting, but – being hunted, as if something’s behind you all the time in the jungle.”

Sucks to your ass-mar!”

“If faces were different when lit from above or below — what was a face? What was anything?”

These Lord of the Flies quotes show the importance of working together toward a common goal instead of fighting.

These Lord of the Flies quotes by William Golding with page numbers show the importance of working together toward a common goal instead of fighting.

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