99% of the harm is caused in your head, by you and your thoughts.1% of the harm is caused by reality, what actually happens and the outcome.Most of the time, the problem isn't the problem. The way you think about the problem is.

1. The problem is rarely the problem.


Don't think you deserve that opportunity? Apply for it anyways.Don't think your article is good enough? Publish it anyway.Don't think they'll reply to your email? Send it anyways.Never overthink yourself into self rejection.

2. Avoid self rejection.


The truth is, most problems aren't solved with more thinking, they’re solved with less.You'll find most of the answers you're looking for in silence, in timeband with a clear mind.If you can't solve a problem, stop trying to.

3. Silence and time.


When you start criticizing yourself for past mistakes, or seeing disaster around every corner, ask yourself:“Is there anything I can do right now to change the past or to positively influence the future.”If the answer is yes, do it and take action. If the answer is no, be at peace let it go.You have to take action or let it go, everything else is self-harm.

4. An important question.


You're not going to overthink your way to a better future.You're not going to overthink your way to a better past.All you have is NOW.And what you do with NOW can make right of your past and make good of your future.Make peace with yesterday, let go of tomorrow, grab hold of now.

5. The power of now.


Your thoughts will create scenarios in your mind that reflect your insecurities, fears and worries.So it’s important to always fact check your own thoughts before accepting them, because in highly emotional situations, your thoughts will tell you stories that aren't true.Fact check yourself.

6. Fact check your own thoughts.


No amount of anxiety will change your future, no amount of regret will change your past.Peace is found in acceptance:<ul><li>Accept imperfection</li><li>Accept uncertainty</li><li>Accept the uncontrollable</li></ul>You don't have to understand, tolerate or even forget something, but if you want peace, you must accept it.

7. Accepting is peace.


You can go to the gym, eat healthy, do yoga, drink water and take vitamins, but if you don't directly confront the negativity in your thoughts, you will never truly be ‘healthy’.Our health isn't measured on scales, by the size of our muscles or by the width of our waist.True health is measured by the quality of our thoughts and the peacefulness of our mind. Health starts in your mind.

8. Health starts in your mind.


This collection of best that I like I related most myself. So I posted here to my collection. 

1. The problem is rarely the problem.. “8 Things Every Over-Thinker Needs to Know:” is published by Navalkishor Kharat.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Finding the right partner feels like a whole lot of work. There are so many moving parts to a relationship–attractiveness, trust, honesty, communication, intimacy, sex life, etc.–that it may feel like there’s no hope in finding a partner that you can spend your life with.

Ways on How to Choose a Life Partner

<ul><li>First, you need to acknowledge your strengths and your weaknesses. </li><li>Then you need to appreciate and love them for what they are.</li></ul>

1. Learn to love yourself

<ul><li>This step is the most fun because it is the ultimate filter. </li><li>You are going to weed out people that aren’t a good fit for you and draw in those that are perfect for you.</li><li> It might rub some people the wrong way, but if it does, let them go.</li></ul>

2. Be unapologetically you

When you are on the lookout for a suitable partner, make sure the person who interests you is someone with a good sense of humor, and this is what you must seek while choosing a marriage partner without any doubts.

3. Look for someone who makes you laugh

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<li>Having shared values reinforces the foundation of your relationship.</li>
<li>Simple things such as consensus on the number of children you want or living within your means create a conducive environment for your relationship to thrive.</li>
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4. Ensure you both have common basics

<ul><li>At one point, you will feel seeing a person that you have found your suitable partner because they shower you with love, gifts, and compliments, but that is not all you must look for. </li><li>As you move ahead with each other, love will take a backseat, and you both will be exposed to each other as a person- who you are from inside.</li></ul>

5. Find someone who is a first, a good human

The more time you spend with your prospective partner, the better it will be for you to understand them.

6. Spend a lot of time together

<ul><li>A person willing to be in a long-term relationship with you will show genuine support for your ambitions and goals in life.</li><li> Your potential life partner should be supportive of your plans to advance your career or pursue a worthy course.</li></ul>

7. Consider a life partner keen on your life

<ul><li>Closely related to anger management skills is your partner’s ability to forgive and forget. </li><li>Love does not always revolve around kissing and other intimate stuff. Arguments are deemed to occur in one way or another. </li><li>Be keen to get a partner who does not keep dwelling on disagreements that happened in the past</li></ul>

8.  Ability to forgive and forget

<ul><li>A relationship is a two-way street. </li><li>Each party must be determined to make the relationship work. </li><li>When choosing the right partner for marriage, select a person who allocates time for you and demonstrates concern for your needs.</li></ul>

9. Willingness to invest in the relationship

Choosing the right life partner is a high stake decision. You have to select the right partner in order to lead a happy married life. Below are essential things to consider before choosing a life partner.

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More people are talking about trauma than ever before. The number of articles and books published about the topic has grown substantially in recent decades. Over 5.500 podcast titles contain the word “trauma,” while the TikTok hashtag #Trauma alone has over 6.2 billion views. Social media engagement (likes, shares, reactions) ranks in the hundreds of thousands for posts mentioning “trauma,” and the term has skyrocketed in popularity as a Google search term.

The Rise Of Trauma, The Word

<ol><li>Trauma Is A One-Off And Distinct Horrific Event</li><li>Trauma Always Leads To PTSD</li><li>Trauma Is Always A Disorder</li><li>Trauma Has To Happen To Us Directly</li><li>Trauma Changes Our Brain Forever</li></ol>

5 (Of The Most Pervasive) Myths About Trauma

An isolated event that severely violates a person’s physical and psychological safety can significantly alter that person’s mental (and physical) health. But trauma isn’t always a distinct and horrifying event. Many people’s experiences of trauma are chronic (think growing up in a chaotic living situation or being repeatedly exposed to domestic violence, residing in a community with high crime rates, or experiencing emotional neglect throughout childhood).

Myth 1: Trauma Is A One-Off And Distinct Horrific Event

Trauma can also result from social and systemic factors like poverty and racism. Additionally, some research suggests that trauma can be transmitted from parents to offspring through mechanisms that influence DNA expression. Trauma is not, therefore, always a single event that changes you forever. It can manifest in different ways for different people, with vastly different outcomes and effects.

Trauma Might Not Even Be An “Event”

Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a debilitating outcome of exposure to trauma(s) that entails intrusive and distressing memories of the traumatic event(s), avoidance of things associated with the traumatic event(s), impairments in memory and distorted thoughts or beliefs about one’s self or others (think: “I’m a bad person” or “Everyone’s out to get me”). Persistently depressed or agitated moods, feeling keyed up or on edge, and not being able to sleep or concentrate are other hallmarks of PTSD. So, too, is engaging in reckless or self-harming behavior.

Myth 2: Trauma Always Leads To PTSD

Yet only a small proportion of people exposed to traumatic events (including the unexpected death of a loved one, violence, sexual assault, natural disasters, or vehicular accidents) develop PTSD. In fact, it’s estimated that just around 6 to 8% of the population experiences PTSD symptoms during their lives. While we should never discount PTSD’s severity and risk factors, it’s important to remember that experiencing trauma does not always lead to PTSD.

Some People Who Experience Trauma Develop PTSD. Others Do Not. 

Experiencing trauma can lead to or exacerbate a range of emotional, behavioral, and physical health issues. Disorders other than PTSD can result from trauma—including acute stress disorder, whose symptoms mirror those of PTSD but typically arise immediately after trauma exposure and last around one month; some personality disorders, eating disorders, anxiety, and depression. But this isn’t always the case.

Myth 3: Trauma Is Always A Disorder

Many factors influence whether and how someone recovers from traumatic events, including their age at the time of the trauma, their personal coping skills and access to resources, what supports they have in place when trauma occurs, and whether they can access timely and effective interventions (like psychotherapy).

No Two People’s Responses To Trauma Are Exactly Alike

Approximately half of all people exposed to trauma actually go on to experience “post-traumatic growth ”—a transformative and positive psychological experience in the wake of adversity that protects people from trauma’s negative effects. So while traumatic events can be life-altering or effect significant changes in one’s emotional and behavioral health, this isn’t the case for everyone exposed to trauma—nor is it true of every traumatic experience.

Recovery From Trauma Of All Kinds Is Very Possible

We don’t have to directly experience one or more traumatic incidents in order to be negatively affected by them. “Vicarious” or “secondary” trauma refers to a profound shift in one’s worldview and sense of safety resulting from repeated exposures to other people’s trauma—say, by witnessing the aftermath of disasters or hearing about vivid details of someone else’s adversity. Mental health professionals, health care professionals, emergency responders as well as clergy members who minister to people suffering from trauma’s effects are at higher risk of vicarious trauma than the general public.

Myth 4: Trauma Has To Happen To Us Directly

Experiencing trauma can alter our nervous system’s threat detection capacities, keeping us constantly on edge and on high alert for danger. But there’s evidence that our brains remain “plastic” well into the latter years of our life. Effective interventions for trauma—including eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR), modified versions of dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), and cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT)—have each been shown to change neural activity, bringing about positive emotional and behavioral changes in those who recover from trauma-related disorders.

Myth 5: Trauma Changes Our Brain Forever

<ul><li>Trauma does not have to happen to us directly in order for us to experience its negative effects.</li><li>Trauma does not have to change our brain forever—ample evidence shows that recovery from trauma is very real and very possible.</li><li>Trauma itself is not a disorder; it is an adverse experience that may lead to a disorder.</li><li>Resilience is the most common response to trauma.</li></ul>

Trauma: The Key Points

Recovery from trauma of all kinds is very possible—a reality that myths about trauma tend to obscure. With the right kind of support, trauma survivors can learn to regulate intense and overwhelming emotions resulting from past adversity, rekindle a sense of physical and emotional safety, develop trusting relationships with others, and extract meaning from their past so that it stops hijacking their present.

Trauma: The Takeaway 

A broad definition of trauma is useful; an open-ended one isn’t.

Despite its increasing popularity as a topic, many people still hold some serious misconceptions about what trauma actually is. Here are five of the most pervasive myths about trauma—and what research has to say about them.

Debunking some serious misconceptions about an increasingly popular concept.

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We’re overwhelmed by all the things we have on our plates, all the interruptions and messages and emails, all the things online and on social media, all the news, and chaos of the world, and all the things going on in our relationships. It’s a lot! We can celebrate the abundance of our lives, but often we bemoan it.The problem isn’t the abundance, but our fear and anxiety about all of it. Actually, for most of us, the fear is that we’ll let people down. We’ll drop one of the many balls we have in the air and let people down, or worse yet, we’ll drop them all and we’ll be exposed as inadequate!

Why We Feel Overwhelmed

We often have too many commitments.  We say Yes to too many things, partly out of optimism, but also because we are uncomfortable saying No to people. When your boss, spouse, child or parent asks you to do something, there is an expectation that you’ll say Yes. The idea of saying No to them and protecting a boundary can bring up a lot of fear of letting that person down or upsetting them. This plays out even with people who are not as central to us: coworkers, neighbors, friends. We don’t want to say No to them, out of fear of letting them down or upsetting them, so we say Yes. This creates a <warningtag>Huge Pile of Things we can’t do.</warningtag>

Fears That Drive Our Overwhelm

<ul><li>Soothing the Fear: The first practice is simply noticing your fear and anxiety in all of the above situations, and soothing them. Can you notice how it feels in your body?</li><li>One Breath at a Time: take one thing from the Huge Pile and focus completely on it. One at a time. That’s all we can do. It’s so simple.</li><li>Protecting Your Time & Commitments:  start saying No more. A Sacred No, that honors our boundaries and honors that we want to be a Hell Yes to things. </li></ul>

The Simplicity Practice

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<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Use the power of self-discipline to achieve your goals with no fear, doubt or distraction.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Cultivate your aspirations by discovering your purpose – the “why” behind your goals.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Once you realize your true aspirations, establish the “how” of achieving your goals by building self-awareness.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Advance your aspirations with decisive action.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Implement self-discipline in your daily life by integrating your activity with your aspirations and values.</li></ul>

Mindful Self-Discipline

Living with Purpose and Achieving Your Goals in a World of Distractions.

If you want to live a life of purpose, build good habits and achieve your goals, there is one skill that is more important than anything else: Self-Discipline. Self-discipline is not about punishment, it’s about self-respect. It is not about being inflexible, but about living your best life. It is the superpower of focus in a world of distractions — allowing you to overcome procrastination, excuses, bad habits, low motivation, failures, and self-doubt. With it, you can stay on track with your values and goals even through the times when you are least inspired. Self-discipline allows you to choose who you want to be and live by design rather than by default. As a meditation teacher and self-discipline coach, Giovanni Dienstmann has helped hedge fund managers, CEOs, entrepreneurs, ambitious professionals, artists and pro athletes to live a more focused and disciplined life. Since 2014 he has been successfully coaching people to overcome distractions, procrastination, self-doubt, fear, and other forms of self-sabotage. Whatever self-discipline challenge you face, whatever excuse you are telling yourself — Mindful Self-Discipline is a collection of all these years of experience, converted into a tool for you to use. This revolutionary book is a comprehensive and practical guide for you to develop self-discipline in a balanced way — without beating yourself up. It emphasizes the use of mindfulness and awareness as key components for building habits, rather than forcefulness and willpower. If you have tried other methodologies and failed, then this is for you. This manual for living your life purposefully contains: — Over 50 step-by-step exercises — Over 100 illustrations and diagrams — Links to the scientific studies about each topic Many, many examples — all to make it as easy as possible for you to actually apply all this knowledge and transform your daily life. If you have tried other approaches (Miracle Morning, Atomic Habits, Willpower Instinct, Tiny Habits, Discipline is Freedom, Hooked, Can’t Hurt Me) and didn’t get the results you were after, then this is for you. Mindful Self-Discipline goes much beyond building habits, time management, and forcing yourself. It is gentler, more achievable, and rooted in living a life of purpose. Think you are not made to be self-disciplined? Think again.

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If you want to live a life of purpose, build good habits and achieve your goals, there is one skill that is more important than anything else: Self-Discipline.Self-discipline is not about punishment, it’s about self-respect. It is not about being inflexible, but about living your best life. It is the superpower of focus in a world of distractions — allowing you to overcome procrastination, excuses, bad habits, low motivation, failures, and self-doubt. With it, you can stay on track with your values and goals even through the times when you are least inspired.Self-discipline allows you to choose who you want to be and live by design rather than by default.As a meditation teacher and self-discipline coach, Giovanni Dienstmann has helped hedge fund managers, CEOs, entrepreneurs, ambitious professionals, artists and pro athletes to live a more focused and disciplined life. Since 2014 he has been successfully coaching people to overcome distractions, procrastination, self-doubt, fear, and other forms of self-sabotage. Whatever self-discipline challenge you face, whatever excuse you are telling yourself — Mindful Self-Discipline is a collection of all these years of experience, converted into a tool for you to use.This revolutionary book is a comprehensive and practical guide for you to develop self-discipline in a balanced way — without beating yourself up. It emphasizes the use of mindfulness and awareness as key components for building habits, rather than forcefulness and willpower. If you have tried other methodologies and failed, then this is for you.This manual for living your life purposefully contains:— Over 50 step-by-step exercises— Over 100 illustrations and diagrams— Links to the scientific studies about each topicMany, many examples — all to make it as easy as possible for you to actually apply all this knowledge and transform your daily life.If you have tried other approaches (Miracle Morning, Atomic Habits, Willpower Instinct, Tiny Habits, Discipline is Freedom, Hooked, Can’t Hurt Me) and didn’t get the results you were after, then this is for you. Mindful Self-Discipline goes much beyond building habits, time management, and forcing yourself. It is gentler, more achievable, and rooted in living a life of purpose.Think you are not made to be self-disciplined? Think again.

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At one point or another, most people will experience the tingling of love or something similar. They will also likely experience the thrill of developing a romantic relationship. Some will last. Others will go by fleetingly. There will, at the very least, have one aspect in common – the feeling we call “love.” Many poets and philosophers have pondered upon how that is defined and what that means. Scientists have taken a more practical approach and may have found some answers through their observations.

21 Fascinating Psychological Facts About Relationships 

That feeling of love comes with some very interesting and observable effects on our bodies and minds. Here are just a few fascinating psychological facts about relationships.

Your senses may feel heightened a lot of the time <a href="https://www.newinterestingfacts.com/psychology-facts-about-love/">when you’re in love </a>. Your body also reveals a lot about what’s happening and what you respond to. Let’s start with some of the more interesting side-effects of being in a relationship.

This is going to sound like something from a Sci-Fi movie. When two people are in love, and they share those long, engaging stares, their heartbeats start to synchronize. The explanations for this aren’t quite worked out yet, but a study definitely showed that couples observed during loving moments had their hearts reset to nearly identical rates.

1. Two Hearts Beating As One

One vaguely connected theory about the above is that it may explain why we think that staring at <a href="https://www.newinterestingfacts.com/psychological-facts-about-soulmates/">your soulmate </a>makes you fall in love easier. There may be something to that old cliche: “Our eyes met across a crowded room.”

2. The Eyes Have It

Specialists have given serotonin the name “the love hormone,” and it has an interesting neurological effect on physical pain. It is said that when the production of this hormone is stimulated, it may relieve physical pain.A study offering serotonin to headache sufferers showed that when used in treatment, it relieved pain in the majority of subjects. The presence or image of a loved one is shown to relieve physical pain, as well, due to serotonin being produced. If your <a href="https://www.newinterestingfacts.com/intimate-questions-to-ask-your-partner/">partner </a>has a headache, try sending them a picture of you.

3. The Love Hormone

Love isn’t just one emotion or even one level of emotion. Most agree that it goes through stages (neurologically speaking, as well.) Initial obsession turns into calmer versions of the attraction as time goes along.

4. Love is More Than One  Emotion

According to several studies on the matter, people are more likely to be attracted to partners with different strengths in terms of their immune systems. Some suggest this is linked to genetic impulses connected to species propagation.

5. Diversity Rules

It’s important and very rewarding to laugh together. We can perhaps take that to mean that if you’re looking to build on a young relationship, try watching some comedy or doing amusing activities. Laughing together builds stronger emotions, according to psychologists.

6. Laughter Is Good for Relationships

The Brain releases lots of chemicals for all kinds of reasons. Love is no different. Alarmingly for some, a brain in love experiences similar chemical responses as someone consuming cocaine. The hormone dopamine is stimulated, which is also found when the drugs like cocaine and nicotine are used. Love is healthier than the other, though.

7. Love Is a Drug

The feelings of attraction and love also stimulate the production of testosterone, adrenaline, and oxytocin, according to The Journal of Sexual Medicine. All of these are required when it comes to love and attraction, for the most part.

8. Hormones Play a Part

A person in love experiences high levels of serotonin. This is interesting because the levels discussed are similar to those found in <a href="https://psychiatry.org/patients-families/obsessive-compulsive-disorder/what-is-obsessive-compulsive-disorder">Obsessive Compulsive Disorder </a>conditions. Scientists say this explains why the object of your affections is ever-present in your mind.

9. The OCD Connection

According to at least one study found in Cognitive, Affective, & Behavioral Neuroscience, love seems to create a desire to improve upon ourselves in other aspects of life. It seems to provide motivation and energy to process emotions like empathy, compassion, and even charity.

10. Love Makes Us Better People

Contrary to traditional wisdom (including books, films, and poetry), it’s men who seem to fall into the well of love a lot quicker than women. Of course, that’s an assumption. It could also be that <a href="https://www.newinterestingfacts.com/psychological-facts-about-guys-in-love/">guys </a>just tend to say it sooner.  Social culture has had it that men act bolder, at least traditionally. That may also have added the unexpected side effect that <a href="https://www.newinterestingfacts.com/psychological-facts-about-guys-in-love">men in love </a>do tend to be more emotionally commitment-ready.

11. Men Fall in Love Easier

Meeting someone at a bar and waking up with them the next day may not be love. <a href="https://www.newinterestingfacts.com/interesting-facts-about-science/">Science </a>shows that taking things too fast has an impact on different parts of the brain. However, that initial feeling of euphoria may feel similar, but a one-night stand is associated more with reward centers in the Brain than centers associated with longer-term infatuation.

12. Beware of the Quick Fix

When you’re in love (and other times), you sometimes get that feeling in your tummy described as “butterflies.” It’s as if the muscles in your belly are floating or perhaps firing off spontaneously. That is adrenaline going haywire, and it energizes and excites you. Some interpreted it as being nervous, too, which is why you are hyper-aware whenever that person is in the room.

13. Butterflies Are Common in Relationships

This is a bit of a double-edged sword. On the one hand, you are likely to be generally much better mentally and emotionally when your relationship is fresh and new. Over time, this feeling seems to fade. This means that you are mentally healthiest when you are in a new relationship (assuming it’s making you happy).

14. To Love and Good Health

By contrast, when a relationship breaks up, the impact on your health is measurable. The chemicals and hormones triggered by the stress and distress can actually weaken your heart and negatively impact your general wellness.  When they say some people die of a broken heart, the sentiment is more real than you might think. In fact, <a href="https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/broken-heart-syndrome/symptoms-causes/syc-20354617">Broken Heart Syndrome </a>is a medical condition sometimes mistaken for a heart attack. Image by <a href="https://pixabay.com/photos/couple-love-kiss-romantic-6706278/">Hoàng Đông Trịnh Lê </a>from Pixabay

15. Beware of the Downs

Kissing is important in that it determines whether potential relationships have that “chemistry.” Kissing also plays an important role in long-term relationships in that it helps to keep emotional and psychological bonds strong.

16. Kiss Kiss Bang Bang

In terms of chemistry, people with high levels of either estrogen or testosterone seem to attract someone with the opposite hormone in abundance. On a related note, there is also a bizarre finding from a study where subjects were asked to smell t-shirts belonging to different potential partners. In a blind test, women chose T-shirts of men that had different immune system makeup to themselves. That is to say; they statistically chose the t-shirts of men who had different vulnerabilities in terms of illness and disease.

17. The T-Shirt Test

On the other hand, statistics show that people also tend to choose people that have similar features to either themselves or their opposite-sex parent. Some factors include the sizes of ears, color, the familiarity of eyes, and even lung capacity. How weird is that?

If you suffer from hypertension (high blood pressure), studies show that the happiness resulting from a loving relationship helps to manage the condition. A happy home helps with happy blood pressure, in other words. The opposite is also probably true, however. An unhappy relationship might well be bad for your stress and blood pressure levels.

18. The Blood That Moves the Body

Your brain has a lot to do with your mental state, and that includes any feelings you might have towards another. Consider these aspects when you’re in love or in a relationship.

Your Brain Is Set on Fire

The total combination of hormones and chemicals triggered by being in love makes the feeling very addictive. It’s the key to staying euphoric about the person and the state of mind you’re in. Perhaps this offers some clue as to why it’s easier to fall in love in dangerous or high-adrenaline situations. The jury is out on whether this means good things for a long-term relationship, but the brain is certainly more open to possibilities when on the end of a bungee cord, for example.

19. Dangerous Love

Being close to your loved one is a great stress reliever. On those difficult days, take time out to hug it out. It will provide a positive kick to your mood and drop your stress levels.

20. Hugs, Not Bugs

Finally, one way to tell if you’re really in love is to see if you’re finding fault with the object of your affection. If they seem absolutely perfect in every way, you’re hooked. This may be a biological impulse in that it should maintain your fascination long enough to want to procreate.  Related Posts You Might Enjoy:

21. The Perfection Paradox

21 Fascinating Psychological Facts About Relationships

At one point or another, most people will experience the tingling of love or something similar. They will also likely experience the thrill of developing a romantic relationship. Here are 21 fascinating psychological facts about relationships most people don't know

21 Fascinating Psychological Facts about Relationships (2022) Most People Don't Know

We spend 3-8 hours on our phones daily(most of this time is wasted purposeless).  Our whole life is contained in a piece of computer with different functions - that's a problem, because we don't quite understand that it destroys our social life and soft skills. We become more addicted to them and exacerbating this venom will take a lot of time and effort.

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Most of us adore parties because it's an opportunity to socialise, make new acquaintances or consolidate any kind of relationships.This is heaven for extroverts and a 'holy crap!!!' situation for introverts)As for me, at one of this parties I got a feeling that this is something like throwing your health, time and money into the trashcan. A mistake that will play a bad joke on you further in life.

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We waste every ounce of our time on social media - giving/receiving likes, sharing posts/images.We don't understand that every time, we enter this SM bubble, unconsciously we destroy our self-esteem and motivation(effectively losing in every important sphere of our life)If we see a beautiful woman/girl:<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Guys - usually masturbate(we got to admit this)</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Girls - whether support or hate her</li></ul>The same thing goes for seeing more successful men - but just the other way around

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Let's admit that we always know that we have something important to do, but don't want to do it, so we find inessential things to do so we could forget about those important.This means that you're losing from both perspectives:<ol><li class="ql-align-justify">You don't have anything important done - you don't evolve/improve</li><li class="ql-align-justify">You do unimportant things, get nothing but low quality dopamine strike and wasted time</li></ol>That's the reality.

Procrastination

It became clear to me that everything I do isn't important to achieving my goals. So I made a reference for me and other people to keep us accountable of our activities.

The striking art of wasting time

This is it. It’s the end of the line for me. But not for you. Fast is what you do best, ain’t it? Just keep running.

Dive deeper into the world of Cyberpunk 2077! Nadia, an assistant EMT for a privately-owned business known as Trauma Team International, is the sole survivor of a failed rescue mission turned shootout. After she agrees to continue work for an upcoming extraction mission, Nadia discovers that her new extraction subject is Apex—the man who's responsible for Nadia's former team members' deaths. A hundred floors high in a skyscraper filled with members of Apex's rival gang, Nadia and her team must complete the extraction. Cullen Bunn (Harrow County, Uncanny X-Men) and Miguel Valderrama (GIANTS, Hunters) introduce a series based on CD Projekt Red's game Cyberpunk 2077! Collects Cyberpunk 2077: Trauma Team #1-4.

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Dive deeper into the world of Cyberpunk 2077! Nadia, an assistant EMT for a privately-owned business known as Trauma Team International, is the sole survivor of a failed rescue mission turned shootout. After she agrees to continue work for an upcoming extraction mission, Nadia discovers that her new extraction subject is Apex—the man who's responsible for Nadia's former team members' deaths. A hundred floors high in a skyscraper filled with members of Apex's rival gang, Nadia and her team must complete the extraction. Cullen Bunn (Harrow County, Uncanny X-Men) and Miguel Valderrama (GIANTS, Hunters) introduce a series based on CD Projekt Red's game Cyberpunk 2077! Collects Cyberpunk 2077: Trauma Team #1-4.

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Cyberpunk 2077: Trauma Team

I barely report about my own life but this time it seems necessary. Reimagine your life, im sure there were times where you underestiminated someones ability to solve a quest. When i learned one thing in doing a body power-based job for nearly 8 years, then that we all have the possibilities to shine in a specific topic.

Your interests define your abilities and your will to tell others about it, will define in which way you will be accepted as an intellectual. As soon i had started my second carreer in the IT section, i managed near the same or more contacts per day as the old elite in my company. One could say quantity isnt a sign of success, but i also got much less reports then others when i handled the topic the wrong way. Regardless of my illness which prevents doing a normal job anymore, i found my way out of the boredom where no one seemed to have an urge for deeper conversations.

Dont take the same road of missing respect and be open for others abilities, as well as your own. The choice of your input, wether videos, podcasts, books or other types of media will take you nearer to a fullfilled life. Allow yourself to shine in a world that seems filled with more and more garbage every day.

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Danger of Underestimination

You sure have seen it in almost every movie, a nerd or book-smart person has trouble finding love. But like Drew Barrymore in Never Been Kissed or Leonard Hofstadter in The Big Bang Theory, they eventually find love.But of course, real life is quite different from what you see in the movies. So, what is the problem? Why do intelligent people seem to have difficulties finding love?

Can You Be Too Smart For Love?

You need to be aware that there are several types of intelligence. There are book smart, street smart, diligent individuals, and so on. To be sensitive can sometimes also mean to be emotionally intelligent. It's about understanding what kind of smart you are. The problem lies when you're street smart and have a more skeptical view of love. Given your firsthand and secondhand experience, you may even be bitter about love. And when you're a nerd, you barely notice your surroundings and fail to recognize emotions that are happening and therefore miss out on love.

Defining intelligence

Communication is the most crucial key to any relationship. It doesn't work in any other way. So how does intelligence play a part in this? The Big Bang Theory may only be a sitcom that stereotypes intelligence gaps in a romantic setting. But the message they send is crystal clear. Even the smartest person in the group, Sheldon Cooper, needs to build his communications skills to keep his relationship with Amy Farah-Fowler.

Intelligence Gap in Relationships

Many people will take a couple with similar educational backgrounds as a good match. But there are many examples of couples with intelligence gaps between them further away from the public eye. These couples work around those gaps by having good communication skills or better managing their emotions. At any rate, intelligence may be one of the reasons for you to pursue a relationship. But it shouldn't be the only reason to stay in a relationship.

Have you ever wondered if Tinder for intelligent people exists? Do highly intelligent individuals meet at MENSA conventions? Does dating a smart person mean you have to fill out a questionnaire on your habit and preferences like signing up on a dating website? There seems to be an endless list of possibilities on how smart people can find love. The answer is that intelligent people find love the same way as other people. It can start as a workplace romance or a meeting through a hobby or even a family event. They can even meet through a dating website.

How Do Intelligent People Find Love

The possibility is endless since love can be a myriad of things. Smart people can use their intelligence to coin new terms or define love like the one they need. But in the end, they will go through the traditional route to find love. When you're looking for a life partner, you sure want someone whose intelligence matches yours. But rather than focusing on the intelligence gap, you should focus on how you two communicate to ensure the relationship's longevity. After all, love is about having the same footing and equilibrium between you and your partner.

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