<ol><li>Gross National Happiness </li><li>Universal Healthcare </li><li>Publicly funded education </li><li>Daily meditation in schools </li><li>Inculcating human values at an early age </li><li>Organic Farming </li><li>Turning to renewable sources of energy </li><li>Planting trees</li></ol>

8 Great Things The World Can Learn From Bhutan 🇧🇹

<ul><li>While most countries measure their economic worth and growth through Gross Domestic Product (GDP), Bhutan chose a very different way to understand and sustain its economy. </li><li>The Gross National Happiness (GNH) balances economic development, cultural resilience, environmental conservation and good governance. </li><li>These four pillars are substantiated with 9 domains and 124 sub-indicators.  </li></ul>

1.Gross National Happiness

<ul><li>The National Health Policy and plan pursues free universal health coverage based on the primary care approach as the strategy for social protection and development. </li><li>The constitution also endeavours to provide security in times of sickness.</li></ul>

2. Universal Healthcare 

<ul><li>Education for children in Bhutan is publicly funded till 10th standard after which only students who manage to pass their board examinations will be sponsored in higher secondary school. </li><li>Students who are not selected for government-funded further education can continue their studies in private higher secondary schools or do vocational training in private training institutes, both of which are, of course, more cost-intensive.</li></ul>

3. Publicly funded education 

<ul><li>Classes in most schools in Bhutan begin with silent contemplation or a session of meditation. </li><li>This daily exercise has made teachers realise that their students are more focused in their studies and handle stress much better.</li></ul>

4. Daily meditation in schools 

<ul><li>Although education in Bhutan is similar to many other countries that follow the western curriculum, children are also taught lessons on environmental conservation, recycling and being considerate to other people.</li><li>Educators in Bhutan believe that even the way teachers interact with the students should impart some kind of values. </li></ul>

5. Inculcating human values at an early age 

<ul><li>Bhutan announced in 2013 that it would go completely organic in terms of agricultural practices, thereby calling for a complete ban on GMOs.</li><li>Most of the farm practices are traditional farming, so they are largely organic in the world</li></ul>

6. Organic Farming 

<ul><li>Although Bhutan is not as polluted as its South Asian neighbours, the government has already taken steps to encourage the use of renewable sources of energy that do not cause pollution and affect the air quality. </li><li>The recent introduction of CNG-powered vehicles and rope-ways are the government's strategy to do away with transport within areas with an ecology sensitive to emissions.</li></ul>

7. Turning to renewable sources of energy 

<ul><li>The people of Bhutan actively take part in the planting of trees as the nation's constitution dictates that 60% of the country's land area must be under forest cover.</li><li>Just last year a group of volunteers in the country planted over 49000 trees in an hour and very recently 108,000 trees were planted to celebrate the birth of the King's son.</li></ul>

8. Planting trees

Things to Learn from Bhutan 🇧🇹 Country!!

Bhutan way of functioning is different from that of other nations

Understand yourself and those around you.

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8 Great Things The World Can Learn From The Himalayan Kingdom Of Bhutan

“Keep on starting and finishing will take care of itself.”

Procrastination is a mechanism for coping with the anxiety associated with starting or completing any task or decision.Certain tasks make us feel anxious. As a strategy for coping with this anxiety, many of us have developed a habit of procrastinating: put off the task and you’ll experience relief of tension and anxiety.Procrastination isn’t the cause of our problems. It’s simply a learned coping mechanism for dealing with deeper issues, mainly different fears, such as fear of judgment, fear of disapproval, fear of failure, and so on.

Procrastination: a learned coping mechanism

There are always activities that we willingly dive into with enthusiasm.Habits are learned when an activity is instantly followed by a reward. Procrastination is rewarding because it provides temporary relief from our stress and anxiety. We use procrastination to achieve 3 things:<ul><li>Express resentment or resistance toward authorities and our sense of powerlessness.</li><li>Avoid the fear of failure or disappointment, which often comes from perfectionism and self-criticism.</li><li>Avoid our fear of success.</li></ul>

No one is an absolute procrastinator

“If early training has caused you to associate work with pain and humiliation, then just approaching an intimidating or unpleasant task can bring on a reliving of criticism, not only from your current boss but from parents, previous bosses, and teachers. Every insecurity bubbles up to your consciousness as you think about working on some project you feel you’re no good at. Pain, resentment, hurt, and fear of failure have become associated with certain kinds of tasks.”

The easiest way to procrastinate less and boost productivity is to keep a log of how you spend your time. So for a few days, simply record exactly how you’re spending every minute of your day. This will alert you to many areas of inefficiency and lost time.

Log your time

<ul><li>You give a task the power to determine your worth and happiness</li><li>You use perfectionism to raise the stakes of a mistake. You make it seem that any mistake equals death</li><li>You feel frozen with anxiety because your natural threat assessment system produces adrenaline to deal with threats to you</li><li>You use procrastination to escape your dilemma</li><li>Finally, you use a real threat such as a deadline to overcome your fears and start the task.</li></ul>

Stages of anxiety and procrastination

“In order to maximize your performance in a stressful world, you must create a protected and indisputable sense of worth for yourself. Until you do, energy and concentration will be drained from work and put into preparing for imagined threats to your survival, and into procrastination as a means of coping."

When you catch yourself worrying, prepare yourself for that danger. Once you know you’re ready for the worst-case scenario, you’ll calm down and be able to get to work.Consider these questions:<ul><li>What is the worst that could happen?</li><li>What would I do if the worst really happened?</li><li>How would I lessen the pain and get on with as much happiness as possible if the worst did occur?</li><li>What alternatives would I have?</li><li>What can I do now to lessen the probability of this dreaded event occurring?</li><li>Is there anything I can do now to increase my chances of achieving my goal?</li></ul>

Use worrisome thoughts as action triggers

We are more likely to be productive when we can anticipate pleasure and success rather than isolation and anxiety in our work.To minimize procrastination, structure your rewards such that you will be motivated to start on the task each day.Enjoying guilt-free play is part of a cycle that will lead you to higher levels of quality, creative work. Schedule for guilt-free play. This will give you a sense of freedom over your life and will allow you to settle more easily into short and focused periods of quality work.

Guilt-free play

The self-talk of procrastinators suggests and reinforces feelings of burden, victimhood, and resistance to authority. Learning to challenge and replace negative internal dialogue helps you free yourself from attitudes that may currently be holding you back.<ul><li>Replace ‘I have to’ with 'I choose to.’</li><li>Replace ‘I must finish’ with ‘When can I start?’</li><li>Replace ‘This project is so big and important” with ‘I can take one small step.’</li><li>Replace ‘I must be perfect’ with ‘I can be perfectly human.’</li><li>Replace ‘I don’t have time to play’ with 'I must take time to play.’</li></ul>

Change how you talk to yourself

It is a time-planning method developed to tackle many procrastination-related problems.Instead of scheduling the very thing you’re procrastinating on (work), you first schedule fixed commitments (e.g., meals, commute, sleep), self-care activities (e.g., meditation, exercise), and guilt-free play (e.g., socializing, hobbies). In fact, you never even schedule work. It only goes on your schedule once you’ve spent at least 30 minutes of focused, quality time working. And it only happens in-between fixed commitments, self-care activities, and play.

The unschedule

“Working in the flow state or in the zone removes the emotional need to procrastinate and accelerates your progress toward your goals.”

A round-up of useful sources to refer to when willpower gets low.

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Beat Procrastination

Learn how to overcome procrastination and enjoy guilt-free play! One of the most effective programs to combat procrastination, THE NOW HABIT has sold over 100,000 copies, has been translated into 11 languages, and is now revised and updated. Featuring a new introduction and a new section providing strategies to understand and deal with the role technology plays in procrastination today, THE NOW HABIT offers a comprehensive plan to help readers lower their stress and increase their time to enjoy guilt-free play. Dr. Fiore’s techniques will help any busy person start tasks sooner and accomplish them more quickly, without the anxiety brought on by the negative habits of procrastination and perfectionism.

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Learn how to overcome procrastination and enjoy guilt-free play!  One of the most effective programs to combat procrastination, THE NOW HABIT has sold over 100,000 copies, has been translated into 11 languages, and is now revised and updated. Featuring a new introduction and a new section providing strategies to understand and deal with the role technology plays in procrastination today, THE NOW HABIT offers a comprehensive plan to help readers lower their stress and increase their time to enjoy guilt-free play. Dr. Fiore’s techniques will help any busy person start tasks sooner and accomplish them more quickly, without the anxiety brought on by the negative habits of procrastination and perfectionism.

Neil Fiore is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Neil Fiore has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Neil Fiore's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

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The Now Habit

It can be described as a torrent of negative thought and associated emotion sparked by relatively innocuous triggers. Much of it is framed by what-if scenarios that give the imagination plenty of room to run free in the wilderness of negativity.This is particularly painful for leaders who are weighed down with a great deal of responsibility, and the duty to make decisions that have ripple effects in people's everyday lives.

Overthinking

Intuition works like a mental pattern matching game. It analyzes situations quickly with extant knowledge and evident context and offers a way forward quickly. Decision-making is based on existing knowledge and experience that isn't bogged down by time-intensive data research or analysis.This also takes away roadblocks we've set up in our minds that keep us from making clear-minded decisions - so it keeps us from overthinking decisions even when they are well-conceived.Intuition-based decision-making can't rule all the time. Use it in moderation, and where you feel it's appropriate.

Leverage the underestimated power of intuition

Sometimes, data-based decision-making can derail you. Maybe it's time to trust your gut.

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The Surprising “Disinhibition” Technique Is a Powerful Way to Stop Overthinking, According to Harvard Research

The Emotion Wheel was created by Robert Plutchik to help organize complex emotions and so that people could more easily gain clarity, identify, and label their emotions. We'll dive into the specific emotions in the emotion wheel, and how to use it, but first let's talk a bit about what an emotion is.

What is the Emotion Wheel?

Emotions prepare us to respond to a perceived or real environmental stimulus (e.g., being chased by a mountain lion or thinking that a friend is angry can both produce fear, causing us to retreat). But what differentiates an emotion from a mood, a physical state, or a thought? Emotions differ from moods in that they typically last minutes to seconds, whereas moods can last hours to days. Emotions also produce a set of coordinated responses (more on this below).

What is an Emotion?

Emotions have been of interest to philosophers and scientists for centuries. Currently, there are 2 primary theories about emotion. The evolutionary theory of emotion states that emotions evolved to enhance survival by prompting appropriate reactions to the environment (e.g., like being chased by a bear). While humans generally do not have the same threats to their survival as our primal ancestors, emotions still serve important social functions by communicating intentions and future actions.

Theories Behind the Emotion Wheel

According to the evolutionary theory of emotion, emotions are thought to have clear neural bases in the brain and are universal across cultures and species. As such, emotions are thought to be innate. ​Plutchik's emotion wheel uses an evolutionary perspective on emotion. ​​

The Evolutionary Theory: Emotions Are Innate

The social constructivist theory of emotion (Barrett, 2009) posits that emotions are not innate, and instead are socially and culturally constructed. In other words, past experience, informed by upbringing and culture, colors our interpretation of visceral experiences and labels them as emotions.

For example, not all cultures have the same words for different emotions (the German word ‘schadenfreude’ means taking pleasure in someone else’s pain and there is no equivalent word in the English language). This view of emotions suggests that multiple brain networks work in tandem during emotional responses (rather than there being specific neural bases for individual, discrete emotions).

The Social Constructivist Theory: Emotions Are Developed

Given the complexity of emotions, Robert Plutchik created the Emotion Wheel to visualize the complexity of emotions and help people identify and label their emotions. The Emotion Wheel uses color to depict discrete emotions and blends of emotion, uses their gradients to express intensity, and uses the geometric shape to reflect polarity (or similarity) of emotions.

The Emotion Wheel

<ol><li>Grief</li><li>Loathing</li><li>Terror</li><li>Vigilance</li><li>Rage</li><li>Admiration</li><li>Amusement</li><li>Ecstasy</li></ol>

The 8 Primary Emotions

The center of the emotion wheel reflects the maximal levels of arousal of each emotion. The emotions further away from the center of the emotion wheel represent milder arousal levels of the primary emotions. Emotions placed closer to each other in the emotion wheel are deemed more similar than those farther apart. The words outside of the ‘slices’ in the emotion wheel are common blends of emotion (e.g., ‘surprise’ and ‘sadness’ combine to produce ‘disapproval’).

Relationships Between Emotions

Emotions are coordinated with the body’s physiological responses. For example, when you are scared, your heart rate typically increases and your palms get sweaty. There is some debate about whether emotions precede or proceed these physiological responses (James, 1884). Either way, there is ample empirical evidence that suggests that physiological responses accompany emotions.

The Components of Emotion in the Emotion Wheel -1 Of 3

Emotions are associated with facial, verbal, and/or behavioral expressions. Charles Darwin first noted the universality of this component of emotion in his book, “On the Expression of Emotion in Man and Animals” published in 1872. For example, he wrote about how the fear expression (e.g., raised hairs or goosebumps) can be seen in cats and other animals (including humans).

The Components of Emotion in the Emotion Wheel -2 Of 3

The subjective feeling component of emotion refers to our experience of emotions. When we talk about our emotions, the subjective feeling is typically what we think of and describe (e.g., “I feel sad about…”). Writing about emotions or using a rating scale to rate your emotions tap into this subjective component.

The Components of Emotion in the Emotion Wheel -3 Of 3

Plutchik argued that each emotion serves an evolutionary function and he identified specific survival behaviors as triggered by specific emotions.For example, the emotions of fear/terror result in withdrawing behaviors that are meant to protect oneself. In our ancestors, fear or terror may have been caused by seeing a wild animal and running away in order to preserve their life. In current times, fear or terror can result from psychological threats of rejection, which can lead some people to run away in order to keep themselves from getting hurt.

The Functions of Emotions in the Emotion Wheel

The Emotion Wheel can be a useful tool in individual therapy, group settings, or on your own to identify, generate, and explore the complexity of emotions. For example, in therapy, the Emotion Wheel can be a visual cue to discuss and label one’s emotions or try to generate an emotion that has been suppressed.

How to Use the Emotion Wheel

The Emotion Wheel can also be used to reflect on some of the bridges people experience between their emotions (e.g., anger and sadness may frequently co-occur). To help people regulate their emotions, the Emotion Wheel can be a visual aid for converting emotions from negative to positive (like going from sadness to serenity). Understanding the underlying functions of each emotion can also help people discuss the root causes of their feelings.

People at times struggle with communicating how they feel. People often say they “feel bad” and sometimes cannot be more specific. Using clear emotion labels helps people to have more awareness of their emotions and communicate with others about their needs. People who use more granular language to describe their emotions tend to be more psychologically healthy and resilient. The Emotion Wheel allows people to do this more easily by using colors, shapes, and symbols, and, like art, it can help people dig deeper into their emotions, their complexity, and their meaning.

Why Does the Emotion Wheel Work?​

Now that you have the emotion wheel to better identify and label your emotions, here are some exercises that can help you put this tool to use to grow your well-being.<ul><li>Explore what emotions you value</li><li>Explore what contributes to your happiness</li><li>Learn to pay attention to the positive</li></ul>

Using the Emotion Wheel to Boost Well-Being​

All perception is colored by emotion.

Human behavior flows from three main sources: desire, emotion, and knowledge.

Emotions can get in the way or can get you on the way.

What are emotions and what is the Emotion Wheel? Learn how to identify and label your emotions using the Emotion Wheel.

What are emotions and what is the emotion wheel? Learn how to identify and label your emotions using the Emotion Wheel.

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The Emotion Wheel: Purpose, Definition, and Uses

John Dewey - America's profound philosopher , said that deepest urge in human nature is " Desire to be important "

Deepest Principles In Human Nature

Some of things that most people want includes 1. Health 2. Food 3. Shelter 4. sexual gratification 5. Money Almost all these wants are usually gratified except one - the desire to be great ...Its not a wish or desire or longing to be appreciated ... An Craving to be appreciated

If you tell me how you get your feeling of importance, I'll tell you what you are...

One-half of all mental diseases can be attributed to such physical causes as brain lesion , alcohol, toxin and injury.But other half of people who go insane have nothing gone wrong with brain cells.In post-mortem examination ,under highest-powerd microscope brain tissue are found healthy as yours and mine.Psychiatrist said , people who go insane find in insanity a feeling of importance that they were unable to achieve in " world of reality "....

Research On Insane People Brain Tissue 

Charles schwab , 1st president of newly formed United state steel company 1921 ,In an interview schwab said , men working at companies knows about steel manufacturing better than me, i was paid that much large salary because of ," My ability to deal with people "... " I'm hearty in my approbation and lavish in my praise " ~ schwab

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It was desire of feeling important that led an uneducated , poverty-sticken grocery clerk to study some law book found bottom of barrel. you probably heard of this grocery clerk - Abraham Lincoln

Grocery Clerk to President 

A Study was made few years back on Runaway wives , what do u think was discovered to be main reason wives ranaway? " It was lack of appreciation ." And as per Runaway husband," They often take thier spouse so much of granted that they never let them know they appreciate them. "

Study On Runaway Partners

Gnawing human hunger , and rare individual who honestly satisfies this heart hunger (wholehearted appreciation) will hold people of his or her hand.

Even Undertaker Will Be Sorry When He Dies

At an self improvement programme , they had been asked to list out any 6 things that they could change themselves to become better ...

Power Of Appreciation

A wife asked her husband the same . Her husband reported in class that frankly he would have listed 6 things but she could have listed 1000 things about me ,So i thought of giving her 6 roses and a note saying , " I can't think of six things i would like to change about you " .

When husband arrives home she was almost in tears, hugged him so tightly and shared her love towards him..

Give honest and sincere appreciation... Different between appreciation and flattery One is sincere and other is insincere, one is selfish and other is unselfish...

Chapter 2 how to influence people and friends...

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Back in 2015, Tal Ben-Shahar was on a transatlantic flight when a question came to mind: How is it that there is a field of study for psychology, philosophy, history, medicine, geography, you name itand there is no field of study for happiness? Yeah, there is positive psychology but that's just the psychology of happiness. What about what philosophers like Lao Tzu or Aristotle had to say about it? What about what literature remarked on happiness? Or neuroscience or theology or economics? Why isn't there an interdisciplinary field of study that looks at life's ultimate highest goal?

A Degree In Happiness

There are two main critiques that people have for the field of happiness studies. The first one is that it's superficial. The reason is that they equate happiness with pleasure. So when people say, "Oh, I went to the beach. I was so happy," or, "This ice cream just makes me happy," well, that's not happiness. That is pleasure. Happiness is much more than pleasure. It also includes our ability to deal with painful experiences, finding a sense of meaning and purpose, cultivating healthy relationships, and intellectual development.

Happiness And Pleasure Aren’t Mutually Inclusive

The second critique of the field of happiness stems from the false understanding that a happy life is a life devoid of painful emotions. It's not. It can never be. Part of a happy life is the vicissitudes of daily life.

Happiness And Suffering Aren’t Mutually Exclusive

Overall, happiness includes life's ups and downs. The signs of happiness can strengthen our psychological immune system. Because the role of the science of happiness is first of all, to introduce us to concepts like post-traumatic growth, which is growing stronger as a result of hardship. And second, to teach us what conditions we can put in place in our homes, in our organizations, in our schools, in our countries to increase the likelihood of growing from hardship. Hardship is inevitable. What we do with our hardship, well, here we have a choice.

Happiness And The Vicissitudes Of Life: An Improbable Friendship

Happiness is largely cognitive; it’s a state of mind, not an emotion.

Happiness is a noun, so we think it’s something we can own. But happiness is a place to visit, not a place to live. It’s like the child’s idea that if you drive far and fast enough you can get to the horizon—no, the horizon’s not a place you get to.

Why studying happiness is good for our “psychological immune system,” explained by Harvard “happiness professor” Tal Ben-Shahar.

Why studying happiness is good for your “psychological immune system,” explained by Harvard “happiness professor” Tal Ben-Sharar.

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The 2 Biggest Misconceptions About Happiness

A few days after she became the first female skater to land a quadruple jump at the Beijing Olympics, 15-year-old Kamila Valieva fell in her final program, costing her the individual Olympic gold. She wept as she stepped off the ice. Instead of comforting her, her coach berated her.The skater who won didn’t seem much happier. The gold medalist, Anna Shcherbakova, said that this was what she had been working toward every day but also that she felt “emptiness inside.”

I Feel… Nothing

This kind of pressure might seem inconceivable to us; after all, we probably aren’t Olympic athletes. But have you ever anchored your happiness in some way to a far-off goal that you could attain only at significant personal cost, that you thought would deliver to you the satisfaction you seek or the success you crave? Maybe it’s finishing a degree, publishing a book, or making a certain amount of money. Nothing is wrong with these goals per se, but if you place your happiness in their attainment, you are setting yourself up for your own version of these bitter Olympic moments.

Olympic-size Disappointments

Dreams and goals are important because they give us a metric against which to measure progress; you don’t care if you’re getting closer to Rome unless you are trying to get to Rome. But what brings us true happiness is progress, not meeting a goal. Progress consistently beats accomplishment when it comes to well-being. Humans are wired, it seems, for improvement. The end state is fairly subjective and in some cases even arbitrary (for example, I will save $10,000). But progress is clear and unambiguous (I have more in my savings account this week than last week).

We “Enjoy The Journey” Because We’re Getting Somewhere

Goal attainment can even bring problems. Some researchers have argued<a href="https://psycnet.apa.org/record/1996-98326-028"> </a>that when a goal is a true end point for progress, the cessation of forward motion can lead to a feeling of emptiness, exactly what Shcherbakova described in Beijing.

When The Journey Ends, We Feel The World Ends With It

Worse than feeling nothing, you might subject yourself to what the self-improvement writer Stephanie Rose Zoccatelli calls the “post-achievement hangover”, a feeling of restlessness and mild depression in the days after a major milestone, such as graduating from college or getting married. One plausible explanation for this phenomenon has to do with dopamine, a neuromodulator that gives us a sense of pleasurable anticipation of a reward. Dopamine is elevated before you achieve a goal and depleted afterward. This leads to what you might call “anti-anticipation,” or a sense of emptiness.

The Post-Achievement Hangover - Addiction & Abstention

Anti-anticipation potentially explains a lot of paradoxical behavior, such as why New Year’s resolutions usually fail in the long run, even after initial success. The imagined sustained bliss after, say, saving more money is a mirage; your prize for success is saving money, forever. The progress gives you little shots of dopamine as your savings increase. But once you hit your goal and look out over the wide expanse of permanent fiscal austerity … it’s a dopamine desert.

Anticipation And Anti-Anticipation

To pursue one big goal in the hope of attaining happiness is, ironically, to set yourself up for unhappiness. Buddhists see such goals as just another kind of worldly attachment that creates a cycle of craving and clinging. This principle is at the heart of Buddhism’s first noble truth, that life is suffering. This doesn’t mean that you should abandon all goals, however. You just need to understand and pursue them in a different way.Subject your goals to a bit of scrutiny. Ask yourself three questions.

Give Your Goals And Yourself The 3-Question Test

A little voice in your head always tells you that your very special dream, whether it’s Olympic gold or winning the presidency, will bring you bliss, so a lot of misery in pursuit of it is worthwhile. But that isn’t true, and the more emphasis you put on the end state, the more emotional trouble you will face. Instead of single-mindedly chasing a goal, focus more on whether you’re getting anything out of your progress right now.

1. Are You Enjoying The Journey?

Here’s an existential riddle: What’s usually first prize in a pie-eating contest? Answer: More pie. So I hope you like pie.The point of a good goal is to improve your quality of life by changing your day-to-day for the better, not to limp across the finish line and stop after a terrible ordeal. Working toward a goal is a lot like that pie-eating contest. The reward for quitting the misuse of alcohol is stopping drinking and then continuing to live without drinking. Make sure you’re really in it for the long haul.

2. Do You Like Pie?

Researchers have found that frequent, small achievements tend to start a cycle of success and happiness much more than infrequent, big ones. Make sure you can break your long-term goals into smaller chunks—even into goals for individual days, if possible. You can have a victory each day and not be dependent on something that might happen years into the future. Point your efforts toward where you want to be in a year, but don’t dwell on that destination. Rather, enjoy the daily and weekly milestones that you know are getting you down your road to success.

3. Can You Take One Step At A Time?

Maybe your goals don’t pass this 3-question test. Maybe training to climb Mount Everest would be a journey that brings you no joy, or actually working as a lawyer after struggling through law school doesn’t appeal to you. If that is the case, you must then ask yourself 1 more question: Why is this my goal in the first place? Maybe you internalized your parents’ dream for your future, or you’re still holding on to one that you came up with when you were very immature. If so, it’s time to let the dream go.

One More Question

Just as a wildly hypothetical example, say that, as a young child, someone told you that you could win a gold medal in figure skating and your life would be wonderful forever. But the journey is onerous, and a few years down the line, you realize that you don’t want the life of a professional skater. In this case, it is time to emancipate yourself from your goal. Walk off the ice and get on with your life.

Walk Off The Ice

“Happiness is the ultimate goal. It is the goal of all other goals.”

Achieving a goal and achieving happiness are two entirely different things. There are 3 questions that can maybe test our goals for their happiness potential. So, do you like pie?

Achieving a goal and achieving happiness are two entirely different things.

Why Success Can Feel So Bitter

<ul><li>Thinking about the future is pleasurable and sometimes we’d rather just think about it than get there. Some events are more pleasurable to imagine than to experience.</li><li>We like to daydream because the mere dream itself can be a joy.</li><li>The main reason why our brains simulate the future is so that we can control the experiences that we have. </li><li>Our brain makes predictions incredibly quickly and about nearly everything in life. When our experiences don't match what our brain expects, we feel surprised.</li></ul>

How We Think About The Future

The greatest ability of the human brain is to imagine, to see the world as it has never been before.But imagination has three shortcomings:<ul><li>Imagination tends to add and remove details, but people do not realize that key details may be fabricated or missing from the imagined scenario. </li><li>Imagined futures (and pasts) are more like the present than they actually will be (or were).</li><li>Imagination fails to realize that things will feel different once they actually happen—most notably, the psychological immune system will make bad things feel not so bad as they are imagined to feel.</li></ul>

Our Ability To Imagine

The word happiness is used to refer to three related things:<ul><li>Emotional happiness</li><li>Moral happiness</li><li>Judgemental happiness</li></ul>It’s hard to define emotional happiness, but when we feel it, we have no doubt about its reality and importance. Because we have a poor recollection of our experiences, we cannot objectively compare a previous state of happiness to a present state.

About Happiness

All claims of happiness are subjective. And are formed from the perspective of a single human being whose unique collection of past experiences serves as context.Nobody really knows what happiness feels like for others, so that means we can’t say definitely whether someone in a situation that might seem bad to us is actually less happy than we are. In fact, it’s entirely possible they are just as happy or even more so.Not knowing what we are missing is the very thing that allows us to be happy despite not having some other opportunity.

Happiness Is Subjective

Your experiential background can dramatically change your happiness levels. Once you know something exists and have experienced pleasure from it, then your definition of happiness changes compared to what it was in the past.

The Experience-Stretching Hypothesis

Negative events affect us but not as long as we expect them. When our psychological immune system is working, we are able to cope with any negative situation that comes our way. Explaining events robs them of their emotional impact because it makes the event seem more likely. This allows us to stop thinking about them.

Rationalization

Wealth increases people’s happiness after it removes them from poverty and places them in the middle class. After that, there is little relation between wealth and happiness.

Wealth And Happiness

A smart and funny book by a prominent Harvard psychologist, which uses groundbreaking research and (often hilarious) anecdotes to show us why we’re so lousy at predicting what will make us happy – and what we can do about it. Most of us spend our lives steering ourselves toward the best of all possible futures, only to find that tomorrow rarely turns out as we had expected. Why? As Harvard psychologist Daniel Gilbert explains, when people try to imagine what the future will hold, they make some basic and consistent mistakes. Just as memory plays tricks on us when we try to look backward in time, so does imagination play tricks when we try to look forward. Using cutting-edge research, much of it original, Gilbert shakes, cajoles, persuades, tricks and jokes us into accepting the fact that happiness is not really what or where we thought it was. Among the unexpected questions he poses: Why are conjoined twins no less happy than the general population? When you go out to eat, is it better to order your favourite dish every time, or to try something new? If Ingrid Bergman hadn’t gotten on the plane at the end of Casablanca, would she and Bogey have been better off? Smart, witty, accessible and laugh-out-loud funny, Stumbling on Happiness brilliantly describes all that science has to tell us about the uniquely human ability to envision the future, and how likely we are to enjoy it when we get there.

Stumbling on Happiness

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