<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Do you walk an extra mile for people ALL the time?</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Do you blame yourself in difficult situations ?</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Do you end up feeling frustrated in uncomfortable situations ?</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Do you always ask yourself what did I do wrong ?</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Do you end up feeling overwhelmed ?</li></ul>If you answered a yes to most of the questions, chances are you are being 'too nice'.Is that a problem, you ask ? Let's break it down for you.

You are TOO Nice. 

Being too nice comes out a few factors :<ul><li>Fear of abandonment : Fear that people would leave us</li><li>People pleasing : We are not comfortable with people not liking us</li><li>Neediness : Our need of emotional support and clinginess</li><li>Fear of being alone : We are afraid of ending up alone</li></ul>Notice that I have used 'we','us' and 'our' in the above terms. As humans,we crave love and emotional bonding, so it is extremely normal to fall into the trap.

Am I being nice or needy ? 

1. Low self esteem : People pleasing means we depend on others a lot for validation and our choices are driven by their response. This weakens our sense of self.2. Constant Dissatisfaction : Since our focus is not what we really want or like, we always end up unhappy with our life.3. Emotional Burnout : We often take extra steps and give way more than we take from others. This emotionally drains us.All in all, affects our own mental peace.

Why is it a problem to be too nice ? 

"Be compassionate,be kind,be helpful, just don't be stupid" - Anonymous

Don't be stupid. 

Are You Too Nice?If you find it hard to be assertive, directly ask for what you want, or say "no" to others, then you just might be suffering from too much niceness.In this controversial book, world-renowned confidence expert, Dr. Aziz Gazipura, takes an incisive look at the concept of nice. Through his typical style, Dr. Aziz uses engaging stories, humor, and disarming vulnerability to cut through the nice conditioning and liberate the most bold, expressive, authentic version of you. You'll discover how to: => Easily say "no" when you want to and need to.=> Confidently and effectively ask for what you want.=> Speak up more freely in all your relationships.=> Eliminate feelings of guilt, anxiety, and worry about what others will think.

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Dr. Aziz is a clinical psychologist and one of the world's leading experts on social confidence. After being stuck in shyness and social anxiety himself for almost 10 years, he became determined to find a way to social freedom. Through thousands of hours of his own training, counseling, reading, group work, and coaching, he has truly mastered what it takes to break free from shyness and social anxiety into a life of confidence.In 2011, Dr. Aziz started The Center For Social Confidence, which is dedicated to helping everyone break through their shyness and social anxiety. Through his unique blend of compassion, humor, and personal courage, Dr. Aziz has helped thousands of people all over the world increase their confidence. Through confidenc

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