Soomin 's Key Ideas from The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck
by Mark Manson

part-3

1. Not giving a f*ck doesn’t mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable being different.
2. You can’t be an important and life-changing presence for some people without being a joke and an embarrassment to others.
3. When you are overthinking about trivial matters that means you don’t have anything legitimate to worry about.
4. Whether you realize it or not you are always choosing what to give a f*ck about.

(The subtle art of not giving a f*ck)

1. Dissatisfaction and unease are inherent parts of human nature.
2. We all need a ‘Disappointment Panda’ who would tell us the harsh truth that we need to hear but don’t want to accept.
3. Suffering inspires change.
4. Happiness comes from solving problems.
5. Denial and victim mentality lead to suffering.
6. Over-investment in emotion fails us because emotions never last.
7. You can’t win if you don’t play.
8. Who you are is defined by what you’re willing to struggle for.
9. Problems won’t end rather get better or upgraded.

(The subtle art of not giving a f*ck)

1. Adversity and failure build strong-minded and successful adults.
2. Don’t be all talk actually do something.
3. Your self-worth is how you feel about negative aspects of yourself.
4. Our assumed inability to solve our problems makes us feel miserable and helpless.
5. Others do have the same problem as yours for sure, but it doesn’t mean it shouldn’t hurt, it just means that you are not special.
6. Accept our life is boring most of the time.
7. Technology has solved old economic problems by giving us new psychological problems.

(The subtle art of not giving a f*ck)

1. When you stand for something you persist longer.
2. Based on our values we decide what’s success and failure to us.
3. Pleasure is a false God.
4. You cannot always be right.
5. Even if you want to stay positive, sometimes life sucks, and the healthiest way to deal is to admit it.
6. If you compare your success with others, you will never be happy.
7. Self-improvement is about prioritizing better values.

Good values — Honestly, self-respect, curiosity, etc.

Bad values — Dominance through violence, always being the center of attention, feeling good all the time, etc.

(The subtle art of not giving a f*ck)

1. You are the one responsible for interpreting the meaning of the event and choosing a response.
2. Accepting responsibility is the first towards the solution.
3. Care about something more important and worthy of your energies.
4. The new normal can be uncomfortable.
5. You always have better choices.

“With great responsibility comes great power.”

(The subtle art of not giving a f*ck)

1. Growth is an endlessly iterative process.
2. Learning is not going from ‘Wrong’ to ‘right’ straight, rather, it’s going from ‘wrong’ to ‘slightly less wrong’.
3. There is no perfect ideology, only experience is there that has shown what’s right for you.
4. The definition of being correct will change and evolve cause we change and evolve.
5. Stop assuming that you know how the story will end, and try it out.

6. The way we remember our experiences can differ slightly as time passes.

7. The pursuit of certainty often breeds more insecurity.

8. We always tend to avoid doing something that may question our pre-built identity.

9. When we let go of the stories we tell about ourselves, to us, we free ourselves up to act (and fail) and grow.

10. If it feels like it’s you vs the world, chances are it’s you vs you.

• What if I am wrong?
• What would it mean if I were wrong?
• Would being wrong create better or worse problems than my current problems, for both myself and others?

(The subtle art of not giving a f*ck)

1. If you are unwilling to fail, you are unwilling to succeed.
2. Set your values and metrics that depend on your own actions not on others’ behavior.
3. Don’t just sit there. Do something. The answer will follow you.
4. Pain is part of the process.
5. Action isn’t just the effect of motivation; it’s also the cause of it.

(The subtle art of not giving a f*ck)

1. If you are unwilling to fail, you are unwilling to succeed.
2. Set your values and metrics that depend on your own actions not on others’ behavior.
3. Don’t just sit there. Do something. The answer will follow you.
4. Pain is part of the process.
5. Action isn’t just the effect of motivation; it’s also the cause of it.

(The subtle art of not giving a f*ck)

1. If you are unwilling to fail, you are unwilling to succeed.
2. Set your values and metrics that depend on your own actions not on others’ behavior.
3. Don’t just sit there. Do something. The answer will follow you.
4. Pain is part of the process.
5. Action isn’t just the effect of motivation; it’s also the cause of it.

(The subtle art of not giving a f*ck)

1. If you are unwilling to fail, you are unwilling to succeed.
2. Set your values and metrics that depend on your own actions not on others’ behavior.
3. Don’t just sit there. Do something. The answer will follow you.
4. Pain is part of the process.
5. Action isn’t just the effect of motivation; it’s also the cause of it.

(The subtle art of not giving a f*ck)

1. Absolute freedom, by itself, means nothing.
2. Rejection makes your life better.
3. An unhealthy romantic relationship is like cocaine. (Two people trying to escape their problems through their emotions for each other)
4. Healthy relationships have boundaries and trust.
5. Honesty is more important than feeling good all the time.

"The unhealthy relationship has two people. One is the victim and another is the savior. One keeps on creating problems and another keeps on solving those problems because that's their way to get attention and love."