"Becoming fearless isn't the point. That's impossible. It's learning how to control your fear, and how to be free from it."

"I think fearless is having fears but jumping anyway.

"It's okay to be scared. Being scared means you're about to do something really, really brave."

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine, and shadows will fall behind you."

"Failure is the condiment that gives success its flavor."

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Personal Development

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Mental Health

Fearless

<ul><li>Therapy or exposure therapy, which ever helps you more</li><li>Facing your fear</li><li>Talk to others about it</li><li>Breathing techniques</li><li>If all else fails, turn on the light</li></ul>

Darkness

<ul><li>Mindfulness and meditation </li><li>Having support</li><li>Rock climbing to face the fear</li></ul>

Heights

<ul><li>Meditation</li><li>Breathing exercises</li><li>Therapy</li><li>Keep a diary</li></ul>

Being Alone

<ul><li>Exposure </li><li>Breathing exercises</li><li>Visualization exercises</li><li>Numbing cream</li></ul>

Needles

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Psychology

Getting over fears

"The issue is not about how the world is, but about how you are"...With this touchy line introduction helps us to understand that this book is all about Adlerian Psychology. We all know that All problems are interpersonal problems. There is always a cause before an effect, so there is always a psychological issue behind each and every action of ours. That means Who we are now (the effect) is determined by occurances in the past (the causes). So let's deep dive.

Why Should You Read This Book ?

We are not determined by our experiences, but the meaning we give them is self-determiningWe determine our own lives according to the meaning we give to those past experiences. Your life is not something that someone gives you, but something you choose yourself, and you are the one who decides how you live

Trauma does not exist.

People are not controlled by emotion. They are not controlled by the past People are not driven by past causes, but more toward goals that they themselves set. You should arrive at answers on your own, and not rely upon what you get from someone else. Answers from others are nothing more than stopgap measures ; they are of no value.

Live without being controlled by past

Its fine to be 'Just as you are'The important thing is not what one is born with, but what use one makes of that equipment.

Be ok just as you are.

Unhappiness is something you choose for yourself. One might say you are lacking in the courage to be happy. When we try to change our lifestyle, we put our great courage to the test. There is the anxiety generated by changing, and the disappointment attendent to not changing Unhappiness can not be blamed on your past or your environment. And it isn't that you lack competence. You just lack courage.

People always choose not to change.

The issue is really what sort of meaning I attribute to the problem(height) ; what sort of value I give it. The feeling of inferiority we're suffering from are subjective interpretations rather than objective facts Value is something that's based on a social context. An inferiority complex is an excuse. The condition of having a feeling of inferiority is a condition of feeling some sort of lack in oneself in the present situation

Feeling of inferiority are subjective assumptions.

Pursuit of superriority - There's a tendency to think of it as the desire to try to be superior to other people; as the desire to climb higher It is the mindset of taking a single step forward on one's own feet, not the mindset of competition of the sort that necessitates aiming to be greater than other people It's enough to just keep moving in a forward direction, without competing with anyone. There is no need to compare oneself with others

Life is not a competition.

Everyone is different. Do not mix up that difference with good and bad, superior and inferior. Whatever differences we may have, we are all equal  We do not walk in order to compete with someone. It is in trying to progress past who one is now that there is value. Do not think about gaining status or honour. When one is trying to be oneself, competition will inevitably get in the way.

Everyone is different here.

When one is conscious of competition and victory and defeat, it is inevitable that feelings of inferiority will arise. Because one is constantly comparing oneself to others and thinking, I beat that person or I lost to that person. The inferiority complex and the superiority complex are extension of that.This is what is so terrifying about competition. Even if you're not a loser, even if you're someone who keeps on winning, if you are someone who has places himself in competition, you still never has a moment's peace. You do not want to be loser. So you can't trust other people.

You're the only one worrying about your apperance

The feeling of inferiority is an issue of value judgement Why is it that people seek recognition from others ? In many cases, it is due to influence of rewards and punishment education. We are not living to satisfy other people's expectations

Do not live to satisfy the expectations of others

If you are not living your life for yourself then who is going to live it for you ? You are living only your own life. When it comes to who you are living it for, ofcourse its you.

A single book can change your life. Already an enormous bestseller in Asia, with more than 3 million copies sold, The Courage to be Disliked demonstrates how to unlock the power within yourself to be the person you truly want to be. Using the theories of Alfred Adler, one of the three giants of 19th century psychology alongside Freud and Jung, it follows an illuminating conversation between a philosopher and a young man. The philosopher explains to his pupil how each of us is able to determine our own lives, free of the shackles of past experiences, doubts and the expectations of others. It's a way of thinking that's deeply liberating, allowing us to develop the courage to change, and to ignore the limitations that we and those around us can place on ourselves. The result is a book that is both highly accessible and profound in its importance. Millions have already read and benefited from its wisdom. Now that The Courage to be Disliked has been published for the first time in English, so can you

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Religion & Spirituality

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Love & Relationships

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Books

Ichiro KISHIMI Philosopher, Adlerian psychologist and translator of English and German languages. Born in 1956.M.A.in philosophy from Kyoto University. Director of the Japanese Society of Adlerian psychology. Former counselor at Maeda Clinic in Kyoto and has taught philosophy and ancient Greek at various institutions such as Kyoto University of Education and Nara Women's University. He presently teaches educational psychology and clinical psychology at Meiji School of Oriental Medicine in Suita, Osaka. Kishimi now has his own private counseling office in Kameoka, Kyoto, and devotes his time to giving lectures on Adlerian Psychology and child education.

Ichiro Kishimi

Fumitake Koga is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Fumitake Koga has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Fumitake Koga's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

Fumitake Koga

The Courage to Be Disliked

WE ALL ARE CONSTANTLY EVOLVING INTO HIGHER BEINGS

Discover the amazing transformation of a caterpillar into a beautiful butterfly! 🐛🦋 Watch as they go through these incredible stages:<ol><li>Egg: Tiny and attached to a leaf 🥚</li><li>Caterpillar: Feasts and grows over 10x in size 🍽️</li><li>Pupa: Wraps itself in a chrysalis 💎 </li><li>Butterfly: Emerges and spreads its wings, ready to fly! 🪽 </li></ol>How amazing! Remember that transformation takes time and is worth it in the end! 🦋 🌺 #Metamorphosis

Story of Metamorphosis

Metamorphosis begins with unblocking. This is the next step, building new structure.

DO NOT CONFORM; TRANSFORM

Metamorphosis has always been the greatest symbol of change for poets and artists. Imagine that you could be a caterpillar one moment and a butterfly the next.

To grow or develop, in space or time, towards a higher or further stage.We all go through processes that fuel our progress through life. All processes add to the movement towards our goals and dreams. No actions or events are useless or meaningless, they all contribute to our progress. No matter how small, it all adds up.

Progress

Progress is inevitable. We all make it.No matter how bad it may seem for your personal view of your life or life in general, it all changes, because everything is in constant transformation. Learn to recognize the steps you took that led you here, and you'll likely find progress in one way or another, even if the same mistakes are repeated, something is definitely different; in fact the sole act of recognizing failure and mistakes, is a progress away from not doing so. So ask yourself... What can I do today that I couldn't do a year ago?

Giving Yourself Credit

Failure is success in progress

Development from a simpler to a more complex stageGrowth is what happens to us from the day we are born, actually even before that, since the day of conception we grew into a higher and higher being. Much like plants we grow based on our circumstances and our inner processes. And just like different plants have different growth speeds we also develop uniquely; don't compare yourself and appreciate your own growth.

Growth

We all grow through our unique style, we manifest our own art.It is important to embrace and cultivate our own creativity and expression, rather than conforming to others.Here are some tips to help you embrace your own art:<ul><li>Be authentic: Don't try to be something you're not. Embrace your true self and let your art reflect that.</li><li>Explore different mediums: Experiment and find what speaks to you.</li><li>Trust yourself: Don't be afraid to take risks and try new things. You never know what you might discover.</li><li>Don't compare: Everyone's style is unique.</li></ul>

Embrace Your Growth: your own art and style 🎨

A journey through space and time.Progress and Growth are two concepts that interconnect and represent the journey through our life's processes.It's a journey of transformations, from the most microscopical to the most macroscopical. At every moment we are making progress in some direction or another and growing with it. Our focus determines our progress and that in turn influences our growth.Remember that every deed adds up to your character.

Progress And Growth

Remember, your art is a reflection of you and there is no right or wrong way to create. Embrace it and let it shine! ✨

Let Us Shine!

Progress and Growth are like mirrors; Both conceptualize the reality of a journey through which we all evolve.

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Mindfulness

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Motivation & Inspiration

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Creativity

Progress and Growth

"It is not how much we have, but how much we enjoy, that makes us happy."

"Be happy for this moment. This moment is your life."

"The way I see it, if you want the rainbow, you gotta put up with the rain!”

"Happiness held is the seed; happiness shared is the flower.”

"There is no path to happiness; happiness is the path."

"Let us be grateful to the people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom."

"Happiness is a state of mind. It's just according to the way you look at things."

"Happiness is not a goal... it's a by-product of a life well lived."

"Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened.

"Think of all the beauty still left around you and be happy."

"I never did a day’s work in my life. It was all fun.”

“If you see someone without a smile, give them one of yours.”

“My ultimate goal is to end up being happy. Most of the time.” –

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Philosophy

Happiness Quotes To Make You Smile

The investments you make in yourself today will all shape the person you’re tomorrow, next week, next year, and for the rest of your life.

Do you know why children from broken families or toxic parents sometimes grow up with a lack of confidence and more submissive personality? You’re right. That is because unfulfilling relations bring nothing but drama, resentment and lots of pressure into your life. The pressure keeps on building until there is nothing but stress in your life and all your mental capacity goes toward processing that pressure and ignores the things you should be focusing on instead.

Meaningful Relationships Bring Balance To Your Life

Instead of carrying hatred, fear and bottled up feelings in your heart, you should try communicating with the person about how you feel both of you should be striving to make the relation work. This includes giving each other compliments about the value you add to each other. If this doesn’t work, however, Sean Whalen thinks you should cut these relations off.

You’re In Control Of Your Emotions

The relationship of self to other is the complete realization that loving yourself is impossible without loving everything defined as other than yourself.

You also need to act responsible towards those who love you. Be it your mother, father, partner or brother. Take them out on regular dinners or fun places, tell them how much you love being with them and just make amendments. Give them your time, love and attention. This will make sure you never lose the support of the ones who love you.

Act Responsible

According to Sean Whalen, everything starts in the mind. Whether it be love, work or even your physical health. You will need to work hard to feed your brain with positivity. Whether it be in form of hanging out with your loved ones, reading positive books, listening to mindful podcasts, doing meditation or anything that adds positivity to your life.

Healthy Mind Is Healthy Life

Before a man can achieve anything, even in worldly things, he must lift his thoughts above slavish animal indulgence.

Everything positive starts with a positive morning. Here’re a few things you can try to make your mornings a bit more happy.<ul><li>Schedule a time to wake up</li><li>Do some reading</li><li>Go on a walk</li><li>Listen to audiobooks or podcasts</li><li>Eat a healthy breakfast</li></ul>These are just a few activities that can help you prepare and energise yourself for the day ahead. However, you can add anything that makes your morning positive such as writing a journal.

Make A Routine

Especially in the morning, avoid mindlessly scrolling your phone or electronic gadgets, avoid lying in the bed for a long time after waking up, avoid having the last night’s whopper for the breakfast and even avoid activities that spoil a relaxing environment around you.

Avoid A Few Things

Unfortunately, our society nurtures a very unbalanced way of living where hustling crazily is thought to bring productivity. As money is synonymous to freedom, making more of it can help you avoid being trapped. However, do not think you can burn yourself out and that will bring you loads of money. Even if it does, believe me, you won’t find enough energy or time to spend it. Would you rather earn good money and spend it now or earn crazy good money but wait until you’re 80 to find some time to spend it?

Be Productive, Have Peace

Getting a coach or mentor in life will take you much far ahead in life faster than those who don’t like hiring a coach. People think they don’t need a coach but the truth is that everybody can learn a thing (or a lot) from the experiences of others.Life is short so it’s not worthy of spending in a job or career you don’t like. Instead, try to build up a unique skill set and use that to get yourself a comfortable life.

Find Someone To Learn From

The biggest obstacle for business owners and entrepreneurs is themselves. Pride and Ego helped build the business, but they are also why the business will crumble. Good leaders know what they don’t know.

As always, a few words from myself. I have experienced burn out at the peak of my career and it just voids you of all the excitement and joy in your life. You feel kind of like a robot stuck in a rat race. Instead, you should strive to build a life that helps you not only succeed but also to enjoy yourself. Go on tours, meet new people, read more books, exercise often, eat healthy and learn yourself new skills. Believe me, you’ll find your life much more fulfilling and entertaining.

Have you ever wanted to tell yourself, “That’s enough of it. I want to take the steering wheel of my life and prove to everybody that I can move forward, break all barriers and succeed in life?” If yes then this book is specially tailored for you. Read on to learn how to stop making excuses and win.

Is your daily life chaotic and out of control? Do you struggle with work/life balance? Does it feel like there are never enough hours in the day to accomplish all your goals? Does it feel like no matter how hard you try it's never good enough? Are you looking for a simple yet executable roadmap to create the life you've always desired? If you answered "yes" to any of these questions, then you need...HOW TO MAKE SH*T HAPPEN."Core 4 has brought order to chaos. Every time I veer off from it, the shit storms appear" - Ed Eisenbeck "CORE 4 has opened up my mind more than anything I have done in my life. It has shown me that I control my time, my relationships, my body, business, and altogether my life. I'm no longer just along for the ride. In any aspect of life." - Bryan Hooley

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Entrepreneurship

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Business

Sean Whalen

How to Make Sh*t Happen

A mistake repeated more than once, is a pattern. And an apology without change,is manipulation.

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Human Resources

Honest Mistakes And Honest Apologies

Recognize that striving for constant virtue can lead to rigidity. Allow yourself to make mistakes and learn from them.

Embrace Imperfection

Incorporate humor and play into your life. It can foster creativity and help you navigate challenges with a lighter heart.

Cultivate Playfulness

Be wary of becoming overly moralistic. Understand that everyone has flaws and that compassion often requires acknowledging our shared humanity.

Avoid Self-Righteousness

While discipline is important, don't forget to be spontaneous and flexible. This balance can lead to a more fulfilling and adaptable life.

Balance Discipline with Spontaneity

Be true to yourself. Authenticity comes from acknowledging and integrating all aspects of your personality, including the mischievous parts.

Foster Authenticity

Understand and accept both the light and shadow aspects of your personality. This integration can lead to greater self-awareness and personal growth.

Integrate Light and Shadow

Engage in harmless pranks or acts of whimsy that bring joy to others. This can strengthen relationships and create shared positive experiences.

Practice Compassionate Mischief

Don't be afraid to question societal norms and expectations. Sometimes, bending rules can lead to innovative solutions and progress.

Question Rigid Norms

Approach life with curiosity and openness, as if seeing things for the first time. This mindset can help you remain adaptable and open to new experiences.

Maintain a Beginner's Mind

While it's important to take responsibilities seriously, balance it with a sense of humor and light-heartedness to avoid burnout and maintain perspective.

Balance Seriousness with Light-heartedness

Appreciate the diverse traits in yourself and others. This can lead to richer interactions and a deeper understanding of human nature.

Celebrate Diversity in Character

Regularly reflect on your actions and motivations. This can help you maintain a balance between your benevolent and mischievous tendencies.

Engage in Reflective Practices

Use creative outlets to express both your orderly and playful sides. This can lead to a more balanced and fulfilling life.

Encourage Creative Expression

Cultivate friendships with people who exhibit a range of traits. This can help you appreciate different perspectives and enhance your own balance.

Nurture Relationships with Varied Personalities

Strive to live in a way that is true to your values and desires, even if it means occasionally going against the grain. Authenticity often leads to greater happiness and fulfillment.

Live Authentically

In conclusion, Alan Watts' philosophy urges us to accept our flaws, infuse life with humor, and avoid moral rigidity. Balancing structure with spontaneity, being true to ourselves, and embracing all parts of our personality are vital. Questioning norms, staying curious, and blending seriousness with light-heartedness enrich our lives. Reflecting on our actions, expressing creativity, building diverse relationships, and living authentically lead to greater fulfillment and personal growth.

The Conclusion

Alan Watts advocated balancing beneficence and rascality for a healthy life. Excessive virtue can lead to rigidity, while playful rascality promotes flexibility, creativity, and authenticity. Embracing the full spectrum of human nature helps achieve harmony between order and mischief.

Alan Watts : Balancing Beneficence & Rascality

𝐀 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐥𝐲 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐢𝐬 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐬𝐞𝐞𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐚𝐢𝐧 𝐢𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐞𝐲𝐞𝐬, 𝐰𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐞 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐞𝐥𝐬𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐬 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐞 𝐨𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐟𝐚𝐜𝐞.

𝐀𝐦𝐚𝐳𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐅𝐚𝐜𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰...

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Communication

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Leadership & Management

True Love Sees Beyond the Smile

10 DEEP QUOTES FROM MOVIES

Do, or do not. There is no try.

It is not our abilities that show what we truly are... it is our choices.

The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return."

Hope is a good thing, maybe the best of things, and no good thing ever dies.

All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.

Why do we fall? So we can learn to pick ourselves up.

It's not about how hard you hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward.

The past can hurt. But the way I see it, you can either run from it or learn from it.

Our lives are defined by opportunities, even the ones we miss.

Sometimes it is the people who no one imagines anything of who do the things that no one can imagine.

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Movies & Shows

10 philosophical quotes from movies 🎬 

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