Realm of wisdom's Key Ideas from Atlas of the Heart
by Brené Brown

Places We Go When Things Are Uncertain or Too Much

Stress, Overwhelm, Anxiety, Worry, Avoidance, Excitement, Dread, Fear, Vulnerability

Places We Go When We Compare

Comparison, Admiration, Reverence, Envy, Jealousy, Resentment, Schadenfreude, Freudenfreude

Places We Go When Things Don’t Go as Planned

Boredom, Disappointment, Expectations, Regret, Discouragement, Resignation, Frustration

Places We Go When It’s Beyond Us

Awe, Wonder, Confusion, Curiosity, Interest, Surprise

Places We Go When Things Aren’t What They Seem

Amusement, Bittersweetness, Nostalgia, Cognitive Dissonance, Paradox, Irony, Sarcasm

Places We Go When We’re Hurting

Anguish, Hopelessness, Despair, Sadness, Grief

Places We Go with Others

Compassion, Pity, Empathy, Sympathy, Boundaries, Comparative Suffering

Places We Go When We Fall Short

Shame, Self-Compassion, Perfectionism, Guilt, Humiliation, Embarrassment

Places We Go When We Search for Connection

Belonging, Fitting In, Connection, Disconnection, Insecurity, Invisibility, Loneliness

Places We Go When the Heart Is Open

Love, Lovelessness, Heartbreak, Trust, Self-Trust, Betrayal, Defensiveness, Flooding, Hurt

Places We Go When Life Is Good

Joy, Happiness, Calm, Contentment, Gratitude, Foreboding Joy, Relief, Tranquility

Places We Go When We Feel Wronged

Anger, Contempt, Disgust, Dehumanization, Hate, Self-Righteousness

Places We Go to Self-Assess

Pride, Hubris, Humility

Don’t look away. Don’t look down.

Don’t pretend not to see hurt.

Look people in the eye.

Even when their pain is overwhelming.

And when you’re hurting and in pain, find the people who can look you in the eye.

Our connection with others can only be as deep as our connection with ourselves.