“You are not in the mountains. The mountains are in you.”

<ul><li>While mountaineering isn't everyone's cup of tea, everyone can benefit from the valuable lessons learned on the mountains. One wrong decision can lead to injury or death</li><li>Mountaineering is an inherently dangerous sport, and it requires diligent training, endless planning, and meticulous discipline</li><li>However, there are many important life lessons that can be applied to other parts of your personal & professional life</li></ul>

What climbing mountains can teach you about your personal and professional life

<ul><li>Embracing discomfort is the first step to becoming a mountaineer.</li><li>Push through the discomfort because you know that when you do, you will feel stronger and more capable.</li><li>Find your way of getting out of your comfort zone and challenging your limitations.</li></ul>

Learning how to be comfortable being uncomfortable

<ul><li>In mountain climbing, break each climb into smaller milestones and focus only on making it to the next milestone</li><li>Cherishing small wins motivates you to keep going and eventually, you reach your big goal</li><li>This does not mean you should not strive towards big goals, just give yourself enough credit for small wins.</li></ul>

Focusing on the small wins over the big goals

<ul><li>Turning around and giving up on a summit objective after months of hard training and preparation can be excruciatingly painful.</li><li>When it's not safe for you to continue climbing, your goal of summitting gets deprioritized in lieu of the (hopefully) more important goal of staying alive.</li></ul>

Reframing "failure" into re-prioritization

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Important Life Lessons I Learned from Mountaineering

We must all suffer one of two things: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret and disappointment.

True freedom is impossible without a mind made free by discipline.

At dawn, when you have trouble getting out of bed, tell yourself: “I have to go to work — as a human being. What do I have to complain about, if I'm going to do what I was born for — the things I was brought into the world to do? Or is this what I was created for? To huddle under the blankets and stay warm?

What lies in our power to do, lies in our power not to do.

He who cannot obey himself will be commanded. That is the nature of living creatures.

Success is created through the performance of a few small daily disciplines that stack up over time to produce achievements far beyond anything you could have ever planned for. Failure, on the other hand, is just as easy to slip into. Failure is nothing more than the inevitable outcome of a few small acts of daily neglect performed consistently over time so that they take you past the point of no return.

There is no magic wand that can resolve our problems. The solution rests with our work and discipline.

discipline is the unconscious choices we make each time we are given a task for a competition or for living life in chaos. some of the quotes by famous men are summarised here!

This is an article on discipline, to share quotes and wisdom to help you 
see discipline from a number of different angles and help develop the 
skill.

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7 Quotes On Discipline

<ol><li>Focus on your potential instead of your limitations.</li><li>Determine to know the truth about yourself.</li><li> Distinguish between who you are and what you do.</li><li>Find something you like to do and do it well, then do it over and over.</li><li> Replace self criticism with regular, positive self talk.</li><li>Replace fear of failure with clear pictures of yourself functioning successfully and happily.</li><li>Dare to be a little eccentric.</li><li> Make the best possible peace with your parents.</li><li>Determine to integrate the body and spirit.</li><li> Determine to live above neurotic guilt.</li></ol>

Twelve Rules For Building Self Confidence 

11. Cultivate people who help you grow.12. Refuse to allow rejection to keep you from taking the initiative with people

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There is no value judgement more important to man -- no factor more decisive in his psychological development and motivation -- than the estimate he passes on himself.

Our success at friendship, business, sports, love indeed, at nearly every enterprise we attempt is largely determined by our self image. People who have a confidence in their personal worth seem to be magnets for success and happiness. Good things drop into their laps regularly, their relationships are long lasting, their projects are usually carried to completion, and they have a way of enjoying the pleasures that the day brings. To use Blake's phrase, they "catch joy on the wings".

Self Confidence And Discovery Of Joy

On the other hand, some people seem to be magnets for failure and unhappiness. Their plans go awry, they have a way of torpe doing their own successes and nothing seems to work out for them. In the counselling office where I work we see many such persons. In most instances my colleagues and I find that their problems stem from a difficulty with self acceptance. And when we are able to help them gain more confidence, many of their psychological troubles take care of themselves.

Other Side Of Low Confidence 

One of the pleasures of doing counselling over a number of decades is that occasionally one sees former clients who have made remarkable progress. A person with whom I worked many years ago and who has been dropped by my office. I recall the slouched young woman she once was. As she had sat in front of me week after week she had blushed, stumbled in her speech and looked at the floor. Her body language said, "I don't even deserve to be talking to you". She tended to lose jobs, relationship went sour and she had troubles in almost every area of her life. As failures were connected to her.

Can Self Image Be Changed

Now, almost 10 years later, the woman has obviously changed her self estimate, and she is a startlingly transformed woman. She is beautifully poised and her body language telegraphs how good she feels about herself. She talks about animation about the successful business she has started, she is married to a man she loves and she has several long term friends. She has change not only her look but also self confidence and judgement about herself.

Changed Self Image 

I believe fervently in our species and have no patience with the current fashion of running down the human being as a useful part of nature. On the contrary, we are a spectacular, splendid manifestation of life.

....you will know the truth and the truth will set you free.

1. Tapping your Capacities2. Discovering your inner self3. Stepping off the Treadmill4. Aiming for Personal Excellence

Four Fundamentals For Developing Self-confidence 

The only difference between the best performance and the worst performance is the variation in our self talk.

"If you train your mind to search for the positive things about other people, you will be surprised at how many good things you can observe in them and comment upon."

James Joyce's classic novel Ulysses depicts the stream of consciousness moving through the mind of Leopold Bloom and others during a 24 hours period. Joyce's work makes poignantly clear that even when we are not talking to others, we are always carrying on a conversation with ourselves. If I could plug a set of headphones into the minds of my clients and listen in on the statement they make to themselves all day, the majority of them would be negative:" I'm late. My hair looks terrible & ugly. "One good daily exercise for building self Confidence is to practice more friendly inner dialogue.

Improving Your Inner Dialogue

I would like to emphasize that one does not necessarily require a therapist to engage in self discovery . Freud and Jung analyzed themselves, and many of us can do the same. Here are some simple suggestions for learning more about your inner self. 1. Keep a journal 2. Arrange to spend time alone3. Note that things that make you distinctive4. Regularly redefine yourself5. Look for someone in whom you can confide.

Investigating Your Inner Self

Helps readers build inner strength, handle rejection, develop uniqueness, keep flaws in perspective, make friends with one's body, find a place to excel, expand one's network of love and help others become more confident, in a book that includes fascinating stories and anecdotes, showing how to increase self-confidence without falling into the trap of self-worship. Original.

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Discover how you can: build inner strength, handle rejection, develop your uniqueness, keep your flaws in perspective, make friends with your body, find a place to excel, expand your network of love, and help others become more confident. These and other practical guidelines, along with fascinating stories and anecdotes, show how you can increase your self-confidence without falling into the trap of self-worship. A book to help you succeed at being yourself.

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Do you read a lot of self-help books? Do you watch self-improvement videos frequently to learn how you can better yourself?If you do, one difficulty you’d undoubtedly face on this journey is ‘actionability’ — that is, taking action and applying new knowledge you’ve learned to better yourself.

The Journey of Self Improvement

You see…Knowledge is not power. Knowledge is POTENTIAL power. If you don’t use your knowledge in some way, shape, or form, it is innately worthless. Yes. Knowledge is worthless if you don’t tap on them.

Knowledge is NOT power

So what’s stopping us from taking action on our knowledge? Well… there are a couple of reasons. Let’s explore.

How Do We Turn Knowledge Into Power?

<ul><li>We often think that big changes are necessary for us to grow. </li><li>However, big changes require a lot of work. </li><li>If you put yourself in a position where you can easily get overwhelmed by the large amount of work, you’d very likely give up.</li></ul>Example:<ul><li>You want to start meditating to clear your mind. </li><li>You set a goal to meditate every day for 30 minutes. </li><li>However, the large time commitment quickly overwhelms you and you give up on meditation altogether.</li></ul>

Problem #1 — We THINK we HAVE TO make really big changes

The solution to this problem requires a mindset shift. <ul><li>Understand that small changes are enough. </li><li>Oftentimes the change you need is SMALLER than you think. </li><li>Starting small makes it mentally easy for you to get started. </li><li>You can ALWAYS ramp up your efforts as time passes. </li></ul>These little bits of effort will add up in the long run. Consider This: <ul><li>Start by meditating for 3 minutes twice a week. </li><li>Once you start to notice the benefits, you can slowly ramp up your meditation frequency and duration.</li><li>It’s much easier for you to pick up the habit of meditation this way.</li></ul>

Solution #1 — Focus on making REALLY small sustainable changes

Here’s a great example. <ul><li>Bob and Alice are both trying to become healthier. </li><li>Bob says that he will “try to become healthier this year”. </li><li>Alice says that she will run 3 times a week on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, from 8 am to 9 am. </li></ul>Who do you think is more likely to accomplish their goal? They say that “ambiguity is the mother of procrastination” and that couldn’t be closer to the truth.

Problem #2 — We don’t have a clear plan

To eliminate ambiguity, you need a plan.In general, the more specific and the more clear you are about your plan the better. <ul><li>What’s the first task you will tackle when you wake up? </li><li>How long will you spend on your afternoon workout? </li><li>Where will you do your evening meditation? </li></ul>The goal is to turn your desired outcomes into a series of very clear behaviors.

Solution #2 — Make a plan and be specific

There are many golden nuggets of wisdom in self-help books and yet we struggle to remember most of them. Even if we somehow remember the lessons vaguely, we fail to act on them at the right times. A lesson about leadership may only be relevant when you are in a leadership position. However, you get so overwhelmed while leading that you fail to use the leadership tips you learned in a book. Your breathing exercises will only come in handy when you’re in high-pressure situations. However, when you’re stressed, you fail to remember the breathing exercises that are supposed to calm you down.

Problem #3 — We don’t remember to do it

The first thing you need to do is realize the fallibility of human memory. <ul><li>To remember the lessons from self-help books, you NEED to take notes.</li><li>Taking notes not only helps you to remember key ideas from books you’ve read, but it also saves you the time from flipping through the book to search for ideas you vaguely remember. </li></ul>

Solution #3 — Take notes and set triggers to remind you

After keeping track of these valuable lessons, you’d want to set some triggers to prompt yourself to take action on them. A trigger is any stimulus that influences behaviors (similar to a cue)<ul><li>Time-based trigger: It’s 7 am — my alarm rang so I will get up to head for work </li><li>Location-based trigger: I passed by the park so I will slow down, try to be more present, and take deep breaths to relieve my pressure </li><li>Emotional State Trigger: I feel stressed so I will sit down and meditate </li></ul>Ultimately, writing notes allows you to track your knowledge, and setting triggers reminds you to take action on them.

Solution #3 (continue)

To end off, I'd like to leave you with a quote"Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do."I hope you found some value in these writings. Take care and I'll catch you in my next writing! Cheers.

Struggling to take action on what I’ve learned is something that’s very close to my heart. I sometimes wonder about the purpose of reading a whole self-help book if I fail to act on my newfound knowledge.

If this resonates with you, I am positive that this article will bring great value. Have a read!

This article is written part of the #CrystalizeMyLearning movement I founded where I seek to learn through writing | August 2022 Edition * * * Do you read a lot of self-help books? Do you watch self-improvement videos frequently to learn how you can better yourself? If you do, one difficulty you’d u

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3 Ways To Turn Knowledge Into Action

There is no formula to determine how much wealth is wealth enough for you, or how much income is needed to build that wealth that will keep you satisfied. It all depends on you. What’s common to all of us is that In order to start building wealth, a proportion of our after-tax income should be saved regularly. Financial advisers would recommend a target of one-third but your income has a large role to play here. So let’s start with, how you generate income.

Moving From Income to Wealth  

Unless you encounter the good fortune of inheriting money, property, or other assets to fast-track your journey to wealth, savings and investments from your income are the two principal strategies that can make you wealthy. That income can be earned in two main ways:<ul><li>Active or earned income: such as wages, salaries, tips, commissions e.tc which usually involves a degree of exertion to generate.</li><li>Passive income: Money is received in exchange for little ongoing effort. You may have to do some work to set it up but after that, it needs less attention. </li></ul>

1. Generating Income  

2. 2. Storing And Saving  

The closer you are to retirement, the less risk you can afford. Before you make investment decisions assess the risk vs the return of such a decision. <ul><li>Shares (Higher risk, potential for higher income)</li><li>Property (Medium risk, potential for steady income)</li><li>Interest-paying (Lower risk, potential for some income)</li></ul>You can also consider supporting a startup this can result in big gains, but many fail so it can be risky.One common strategy is to create an investment portfolio spread across a variety of assets with different risk levels, such as shares, property, and bonds.

3. Invest wisely  

It’s good practice to re-evaluate your investments from time to time; you may find better assets to invest in, or opportunities to have better returns at lower fees.Also political and economic events affect your investments, so it’s always good to watch out for them and react accordingly.

4. Maintaining and Managing Wealth  

These ideas talk about how to use your money/income as a means to build wealth

Everybody wants a juicy secret, even when it abandons pure facts, we fill in the holes ourselves. If you tried to recall the number of gurus who promised they’ll make you rich and the number of money-making secrets you have heard, I am sure you won’t be able to fit them all in one hand.…

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How to See Through the Smokescreen of Gurus who Promise you Wealth

Visualization is important because it helps to prepare and to teach you how to respond to a situation before it happens. It also helps you achieve your goals by conditioning your brain to see, hear, and feel the success in your mind.

Visualization

Visualization is effective because it harnesses the power of our subconscious mind. When we visualize goals as complete, it creates a conflict in our subconscious mind between what we are visualizing and what we currently have.

Why is visualization so powerful?

Visualization is a useful technique that helps you reach your goals and live your dreams. It works by getting your mind and body ready for what you want to happen – and, just like exercise, the more you do it, the stronger it becomes.

Does visualization actually work?

1.Answers a questionVisualisation can provide a quick, high level summary of the main information contained in the data.2.Poses new questionsQuite often the initial data investigations can lead to more questions and further exploration.3.Explore and discover4.Communicate information5.Support decisions6.Increase efficiency7.Inspire

The benefits of visualisation

Visualization can be used to motivate you to focus on, and work toward, your future ideal state. It can be used to build your self-confidence. Imagine yourself presenting in front of a large audience and hearing the resounding applause. You're likely to believe, and act in a way, to make it happen.

Can visualization make things happen?

<ol><li>Try not to overthink </li><li>Use all your senses</li><li>Try not to judge yourself </li><li>Stay relaxed throughout</li><li>Practice visualization regularly</li><li>Emotionally connect </li><li>Visualize with a sense of knowing</li></ol>

How can I increase my visualization power?

In fact, visualizing movement changes how our brain networks are organized, creating more connections among different regions. It stimulates brain regions involved in rehearsal of movement, such as the putamen located in the forebrain, priming the brain and body for action so that we move more effectively.

What happens in your brain when you visualize?

It makes you smarter because you're able to perfect a task, an idea, or a goal." She adds that visualization also helps with strategizing, improving problem-solving skills, lowering stress and anxiety, increasing confidence, and bettering performance, whether on specific tasks, a sport, or creating your life purpose.

Does visualization make you smarter?

Visualization is daydreaming with a purpose.

Visualize your success then take action.

Visualize the most amazing life imaginable to you. Close your eyes and see it clearly. Then hold the vision for as long as you can. Now place the vision in God’s hands and consider it done.

When you visualize, then you materialize.

You are more productive by doing fifteen minutes of visualization than from sixteen hours of hard labor.

I believe in creative visualization.

To bring anything into your life, imagine that it’s already there.

The power of visualization can be used for anyone in a competitive setting. In fact, the most successful athletes in the world visualize their success before a competition.

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The power of visualization: improve your skill by training your mind – Esports Healthcare

Your power dwells deep within you. Far too many people create an idea, believe it’s going to work, and then they hit a roadblock. This could be something small and usually relatively insignificant, and then from there, they forget, they give up. If this is something you did in the past, don’t feel downcast; you’re among the majority. What matters is that you change the way you do things from this point onwards.You need to develop the mental tools and determination to avoid giving up when the going gets tough. It is all within your mind!

Want to achieve more? Change your mindset

The first step toward developing the right mindset is to achieve the desire, not just any old willingness, but a desire which is solid and unwavering, no matter what comes your way.So, how do you develop an unwavering desire? You control your thoughts. You tell yourself what you want; the more specific, the better, and you create a definite plan to get it. You write all of this down, and you read it aloud to yourself two times every day. Within a short amount of time, your desire will grow to levels that cannot be beaten down with small roadblocks.

Unwavering desire is a crucial step to success

Many people struggle with faith. This is probably because you can't actually see faith. it is a feeling and a sense of comfort. To have more faith, you need to use autosuggestion, and that involves talking to yourself firmly daily. You need to say to yourself you’re going to develop confidence and that you aren’t going to stop trying until you get what you want. you should visualize already achieving what you want; how does it feel? How does it look? All of this will help to influence your subconscious and therefore develop that invisible faith.

Faith cannot be seen but it is a powerful part of our lives

There are two types of knowledge, and both are powerful: one is general, and one is specialized. Specialized knowledge will help you take giant leaps forward in your particular niche. Knowledge itself doesn’t bring you riches; it simply influences your plan, and therefore your actions. Read into your particular industry or area of interest and learn more. Ask questions and seek answers. The more specialized you can be, the more you’ll succeed.

Make your knowledge specialized to be one step ahead of the game

If you want to achieve your dreams in adulthood, you need to continue imagining. Your imagination is where you come up with ideas and make your plans.There are two types of imagination: synthetic imagination allows you to reaffirm existing knowledge, and creative imagination allows you to dream up new ideas and plans. Synthetic imagination isn’t really about coming up with anything new; it is simply about rehashing the things you already know. On the other hand, creative imagination is potent, and it is where the brain communicates with something called infinite intelligence.

If you can imagine anything, you can achieve it

Infinite intelligence allows you to focus on your end plan, taking you where you want to go. Through this, you experience those hunches or flashes of ideas that don’t seem to have much sense or reason. If you put those ideas and hunches into a plan, this plan needs to be definite and organized. The more solid and organized you are, the more likely your goal is to succeed. However, you cannot do this alone, and you need to create a team of people with whom you can bounce ideas off, gain advice, and a new perspective. Napoleon Hill calls these your Mastermind Alliance.

you should expect to fail a few times because it is simply a part of life. but you merely rebuild it and try once more. Your Mastermind Alliance will help you with this. Of course, you need to be a leader amongst your alliance and develop the right leadership skills. These include:• Total courage• The ability to control yourself and your actions• A sense of justice• Keen decision–making skills• The ability to make definite plans• Always going above and beyond• A pleasant, easy–going, and understanding personality• Responsible, someone who will accept responsibility when required

Be a leader

The most successful people on the planet can make quick and firm decisions without allowing procrastination to affect their choices. Caring too much about what other people think or listening to opinions is simply going to slow you down. For this reason, be very selective with whom you let into your group; friends and family might mean well, but it rarely works.Persistence is developed via the following traits:• Having a purpose, a very definite one• Desire• Being self – reliant• Making very definite plans• Ensuring specialized knowledge• Strong willpower• Creating positive habits

Avoid procrastination

subconscious mind, in particular, is very vulnerable to the things you tell yourself and repeat, so it makes sense to use this to your advantage. To help protect yourself against fear and other negative factors, you need to develop willpower and always use it to build up a wall. This wall will keep out negativity and help you focus on your mind and a positive mindset.It’s also important to surround yourself with positive and helpful people, not those who are negative. A negative person can easily transmit their negativity and doubt onto you without even trying.

The power of the brain and the subconscious mind

Remember, changing your mindset doesn’t happen overnight. This is a process you must dedicate time and effort.<ul><li>By becoming a stronger, more decisive person, you’ll change your mindset about success.</li><li> Becoming a successful person isn’t down to luck. It’s down to hard work and perseverance. </li><li>Take control of your emotions, create a plan, and start to move towards your goals in life. </li><li>Focus on becoming a stronger, more single–minded person.</li><li> Identify the people you want by your side throughout your journey, i.e., your Mastermind Alliance</li><li>create a plan, and start to move towards your goals in life.</li></ul>

Tips To Memorize

Success comes to those who become success conscious. Failure comes to those who allow themselves to become failure conscious.

Think and Grow Rich has been called the "Granddaddy of All Motivational Literature." It was the first book to boldly ask, "What makes a winner?" The man who asked and listened for the answer, Napoleon Hill, is now counted in the top ranks of the world's winners himself. The most famous of all teachers of success spent "a fortune and the better part of a lifetime of effort" to produce the "Law of Success" philosophy that forms the basis of his books and that is so powerfully summarized in this one. In the original Think and Grow Rich, published in 1937, Hill draws on stories of Andrew Carnegie, Thomas Edison, Henry Ford, and other millionaires of his generation to illustrate his principles. In the updated version, Arthur R. Pell, Ph.D., a nationally known author, lecturer, and consultant in human resources management and an expert in applying Hill's thought, deftly interweaves anecdotes of how contemporary millionaires and billionaires, such as Bill Gates, Mary Kay Ash, Dave Thomas, and Sir John Templeton, achieved their wealth. Outmoded or arcane terminology and examples are faithfully refreshed to preclude any stumbling blocks to a new generation of readers.

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Ever wondered how life would be if we could condition our minds to Think and Grow Rich? Author Napoleon Hill claims to have based this book on twenty years of rigorous research on the lives of those who had amassed great wealth and made a fortune. Observing their habits, their ways of working and the principles they followed, Hill put together laws and philosophies that can be practiced in everyday life to achieve all-round success. The narrative is rich with stories and anecdotes, which not only inspire, but also show a way forward to take action. After all, riches are not just material, but also pertaining to the mind, body and spirit.  Having sold more than fifteen million copies across the world, this book remains the most read self-improvement book of all times!

Oliver Napoleon Hill was an American self-help author. He is best known for his book Think and Grow Rich, which is among the best-selling self-help books of all time. Hill's works insisted that fervid expectations are essential to improving one's life.

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Success is a word with many Meanings, for someone its money, for someone its the eternal legacy it provides. Whatever the definition of your Success is, you can achieve it! (Write Down This: Success isn't about Talent, its about the Vision and the Hard Work you put in)

Success!

Yes, seems counter-intuitive doesn't it? But yes being 100% committed to your dreams is easier and better than even being committed 99% committed to your dreams.Here are the 3 actions you need to take to become 100% committed to your dream:1. Don't do anything that doesn't contribute towards your Dreams2. Change your perspective about yourself and change your mindset3. Change your surroundings and make them aligned with your Goals

100% Commitment is Easier

We have always experienced times where we want to Work but just can't get ourselves to do that, maybe we are tired, maybe we don't feel good, but at these times we need to see and feel the Potent Future which lies above the Hard Work and Sacrifices. Whether you are Down or whether you are Up, you have to trust your Visions and Dreams, always believe in the Potent Future where you achieve Greatness.

Mindset and The Future

If you want to win! Have a Role Model, it can be anyone, but it needs to be someone who you want to be like. Once you have a Role Model, start acting and behaving like them, start thinking like them, add newer qualities to yourself.Remember: You are the Writer of your Story, and you can make it Happen

Your Role Model

While going through these changes it is very easy for someone to develop a sort of Ego and get this: "Ego is the Enemy!" So, Stay Humble whilst staying Hungry, being Humble can save a lot of your time and energy in the long run. Keep a check on yourself and stay away from developing a Ego. Stay Committed and StayHumble!

Stay Humble

Yes, start small don't try to start being perfect from day one, some effort is more than no effort. And once you achieve a certain degree of perfection, try new ideas and keep reinventing yourself! Good Luck!

Start Small

You must learn a new way to think before you can master a new way to be

5 Ideas For Guaranteed Success Anywhere and Everywhere! ⭐

In 2012, Dr. Martin Seligman, a pioneer of positive psychology, proposed a theory of wellbeing, known as the Perma model: • Positive emotion• Engagement• Relationship• Meaning• Accomplishment You can be happy,if you choose to be happy.

What Is PERMA Model

Positive emotions, such as joy, hope, love, and gratitude are indicators of happiness. Here's how you generate them: • Reflect on what you're grateful for• Spend time with loved ones• Listen to uplifting music• Do activities you enjoy

Positive emotion

When you are in flow, absorbed in an activity, you are engaged. When you respond to challenges with your strengths, it puts you in a flow state. • Learn your strengths and use them • Do activities you love• Live in the moment

Engagement

As a social creature, you need to feel supported, loved, and valued by others: Improve your relationships to increase intimacy, wellbeing, and satisfaction. • Join a class or group• Reconnect with past friends• Learn something new about a friend

Relationship

To be truly happy, you need to have a purpose. To serve something greater than yourself gives you a sense of value and worth. To increase meaning: • Get involved in a cause that matters• Use your passion to help others• Volunteer your time and skills

Meaning

You feel accomplished when you set challenging goals and work to achieve them. Intrinsic goals lead to more significant gains in wellbeing than extrinsic goals. • Set SMART goals• Take consistent action• Reflect on your past wins

Accomplishment

If you want to be happy, psychology says you need to read this PERMA model as it's practical and science-backed.

Positive psychologist Martin Seligman created the PERMA Model of Happiness to measure and assess general happiness and fulfillment in life.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Using PERMA Model of Happiness to Become Happy Easily | Practical Psychology

Save your energy for things that actually matter (like building your company) by disentangling yourself from toxic people.We've all encountered emotional vampires in our lives.They're the colleague that can't stop talking about themselves, the acquaintance who always leaves you exhausted after even a short meeting, or that guy at the next desk over who draws you into hour-long bitch-fests about every little annoyance in the office.They love the drama, but you just lose valuable time (and energy) you could put into making your company more successful.

How to Spot an Emotional Vampire and a 5-Step Process to Defeat One When You Do

You can definitively identify an emotional vampire with one simple test: If after hanging out with someone, you feel worn out and depleted, that person is a vampire. If after hanging out with someone, you still feel full of energy, that person is not a vampire.

Identifying Emotional Vampires

So, what do you do once you spot an emotional vampire sucking up too much of your time and energy? Here is a simple five-step plan for neutralizing their toxic effects.

Actions To Take

Your first impulse upon encountering an emotional vampire might be to just roll your eyes and walk away. That can work if the person is someone you never have to see again, but if it's a work colleague, the experts have another suggestion: Try a little empathy. Sure their overdramatizing and self-absorption are annoying, but these behaviors often are just reactions to the same kind of insecurities and anxieties we all struggle with. Recognizing that is more likely to give you the insight (and stamina) you need to negotiate problematic relationships long-term.

1.Opt for empathy.

We all complain sometimes. The healthy way to do it involves laying out the problem and genuinely searching for solutions. The emotional vampire way to do it is just moan endlessly while looking for ever more validation. Which is why your best bet when confronted with an emotional vampire's endless rants is to gently guide them back to a better mode of complaining.

2. Validate and redirect.

If your co-worker is complaining about a particular work struggle, for example, say something like, “That sounds really difficult. Have you thought about what you're going to do?: Or maybe, “Have you talked to [the person they are complaining about] directly about it? Did your manager have any advice?” This can remind them that they do have the option of taking action to change their situation.

You might think that vigorously agreeing with an emotional vampire might give them what they want so that they go away. Not so. Like the classic-blood sucking variety, emotional vampires have an endless thirst, only theirs is for drama. The more you give them, the more they'll demand. Do your best to stay emotionally blank when interacting with them (some call this the gray rock method, as in try as much as possible to resemble a gray rock when interacting with toxic people.) This isn't rudeness, it's teaching the energy vampire that you are not going to be a reliable source of energy.

3. Don't feed the beast. 

While empathy can give you the stamina to deal with unavoidable emotional vampires, that doesn't mean you should tolerate behavior that leaves you drained. Continue training your emotional vampire that you're useless as a victim by being firm with your boundaries. Tell them at the outset of a conversation, "I only have X minutes to talk," for instance, and stick to your guns.

4. Set consistent boundaries. 

The goal of this whole process is to keep yourself sane (and your schedule on track). It's totally OK to outright tell an emotional vampire that as long as you do it nicely. Go ahead and tell your drama queen colleagues that you're falling behind and really need to be heads down for awhile. Besides being true, it also encourages them to find more constructive ways to deal with their issues.

5. Focus on self care. 

5 Step Process for Dealing with Emotional Vampires

Save your energy for things that actually matter (like building your company) by disentangling yourself from toxic people.

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